I came to know you through a comment on thelovebug's journal and thought to myself, "He should be my friend" so I went ahead and added you, just to find that you were not accepting any new memberships. Bummer! Bad timing on my part
( ... )
The reason that I didn't add you back stright away, was due to the fact I didn't know who you were, I'm always, due to what's happened previously, a little wary of adding people back until I know who they are, but, you seem all right to me, so I've added ya back.
Hiya. I'm on your friends list and as you probably won't see any posts in my journal I thought it worth explaining why. A while back, when I noted that I don't update my journal much and people might be unhappy about that, someone said to me that I should write for myself not to be popular or for other people.
This is something I've largely taken to heart and so a lot of what I write these days is things really personal to me or Sarah, or semi-confidential musings about work. Now and then you'll see a friends-only post with news I'd like to share but that's about it. Sorry to anyone else reading this who expects different, but those are the ways I deal with lj now as I've got fed up of the muttering and gossiping that can happen.
I don't know the history of the events you mentioned but you've always come across as a fairly decent guy despite, as you say, the few faults everyone has.
As far as I'm concerned... you're a decent guy and have a great personality. Please be assured if I have or ever do/say anything to offened you, it was never intentional. As for the 'friends' you mentioned... it's there loss if you decided to filter your posts.
Ian, you're a decent guy and valued mate. The very fact you care about others and how they view you says this in itself. What brought this on? I'm around on Yahoo if you want to chat about it. I am happy to give you honest advice on situations but hey, you knew that.
As for the filters, I don't use them, either, but I do understand why people do sometiems. It depends on how people view their journals (Again, happy to go into detail my thoughts on this.) In a nutshell, if the 3 people have made posts about *you* behind your back by filtering u out for example, then yes, you have every right to be cross. I do think sometimes though people have their own reasons for making a filter, say to share a particular private thing with their closest friends.
you seem a decent and genuine guy to me. I dont like so called friends filtering posts either. Not that im aware that im filtered but if i was and found out, id filter them right out for good! lol. But as ive read katy has said there are SOME legitimate reasons for filters i guess. I do photos and soon i will filter them but that is for genuine thought for others. Not everyone is going to want to see me plastered all over their pages lol. Im quite strict on the friends list i have. if theres any hint of trouble or bitchyness my list will get smaller and replaced by better people as far as im concerned. Me too old to worry about friends not really being friends so i try to work out a good judge of people. Your a great guy from what i know of you from here. Is all i can say :-)
I know I haven't known you that long, but you seem like a very decent person to me. Whilst I can accept people will have filters for some things, as long as you know WHY you are being filtered then it's okay as far as I'm concerned.
As for when you start putting up photos, I wouldn't mind being part of that filter.
Comments 13
Reply
The reason that I didn't add you back stright away, was due to the fact I didn't know who you were, I'm always, due to what's happened previously, a little wary of adding people back until I know who they are, but, you seem all right to me, so I've added ya back.
Reply
This is something I've largely taken to heart and so a lot of what I write these days is things really personal to me or Sarah, or semi-confidential musings about work. Now and then you'll see a friends-only post with news I'd like to share but that's about it. Sorry to anyone else reading this who expects different, but those are the ways I deal with lj now as I've got fed up of the muttering and gossiping that can happen.
I don't know the history of the events you mentioned but you've always come across as a fairly decent guy despite, as you say, the few faults everyone has.
Reply
Reply
As for the 'friends' you mentioned... it's there loss if you decided to filter your posts.
Reply
Reply
Reply
As for the filters, I don't use them, either, but I do understand why people do sometiems. It depends on how people view their journals (Again, happy to go into detail my thoughts on this.) In a nutshell, if the 3 people have made posts about *you* behind your back by filtering u out for example, then yes, you have every right to be cross. I do think sometimes though people have their own reasons for making a filter, say to share a particular private thing with their closest friends.
Reply
Thanks for the chat we had last night about this.
Reply
Reply
Im quite strict on the friends list i have. if theres any hint of trouble or bitchyness my list will get smaller and replaced by better people as far as im concerned. Me too old to worry about friends not really being friends so i try to work out a good judge of people.
Your a great guy from what i know of you from here. Is all i can say :-)
Reply
I know I haven't known you that long, but you seem like a very decent person to me. Whilst I can accept people will have filters for some things, as long as you know WHY you are being filtered then it's okay as far as I'm concerned.
As for when you start putting up photos, I wouldn't mind being part of that filter.
Reply
Joking aside, I completely agree with your filter thought.
Reply
Leave a comment