See, my first reaction would be to grin and say "That's great!" unless I knew you didn't want a kid. Because baby. I love babies. And kids.
It'd be when I stopped and thought about it that I would pause and wonder stuff, but it'd be stuff that wasn't my business and would be rude to say to all but the closest friends... well, even to them! :( but that'd probably be after you'd already wandered off to talk to others or something, so you wouldn't know I paused.
Does that make it better? Hm.
But I agree, as long as you're happy, who cares what others think? You'll be getting a lot of opinions on your parenting skills, many unsolicited, so might as well figure out they have no authority unless you give it to them.
And congrats! If you ever need a sitter, call me! ;)
Thank you! I'm already getting all kinds of stories, both good and bad, from the girls at work about heir pregnancies and deliveries. And any time I'm craving something or don't want something, someone says to me, "Oh! That means you're having a girl/boy because I/my mom/my next door neighbor/the gal at the checkout counter at the grocery store wanted/didn't want that while she was pregnant!". LOL
Haven't figured out if that would be worse than random people asking me if I'm pregnant or why I haven't had the baby yet. Or assuming I must be pregnant because I feel sick. My usual response? Unless God thinks we need a redo of the whole Jesus thing, I'm not pregnant! O.o
Hope you get mostly good and kind comments! Will you post pics of baby or are you uncomfortable with that?
I got pregnant unexpectedly (contraceptive failure!) when my SO and I had been together for about 2 months.
The thing about not being the type of girl who does this sort of thing is that I think it changes your perspective on others--at least it did for me. I think it made me more compassionate and understanding and less judgmental.
I liked the repetition of the I've never been pregnant theme throughout.
The thing about not being the type of girl who does this sort of thing is that I think it changes your perspective on others--at least it did for me. I think it made me more compassionate and understanding and less judgmental.
I agree with this comment. My pregnancy was planned, I had been with my husband for seven years when it happened, and we'd even bought the "requisite" house in the suburbs with a big yard and decent schools and not too much crime.
I was very firmly a Career Woman who was On The Way Up. This is the part we didn't plan for, because the second that baby was inside me, I didn't give a rat's ass about running on the corporate hamster wheel anymore.
You know all the people who complain about how horrid maternity leave is in the US? I thought they were all enormous whiners until I had my own child. And then I realized that if I'd had a year with my son like women in some countries do, things would have gone so differently. I realized all the subtle ways our society sets up working moms to fail. And it's harder
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I'm really interested to see how I'm going to react to going back to work after the baby is born. I've always been totally invested in my work, but have also wanted to have kids for about ever. I guess I'll just have to wait and see what happens . . .
The whole getting divorced thing started me, I think, on the road to a more compassionate me. I never felt like I was judgmental before, but realize looking back that I totally was. The last six months or so of my life have really opened my eyes and made me grow, which is all kinds of amazing. ^_^
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It'd be when I stopped and thought about it that I would pause and wonder stuff, but it'd be stuff that wasn't my business and would be rude to say to all but the closest friends... well, even to them! :( but that'd probably be after you'd already wandered off to talk to others or something, so you wouldn't know I paused.
Does that make it better? Hm.
But I agree, as long as you're happy, who cares what others think? You'll be getting a lot of opinions on your parenting skills, many unsolicited, so might as well figure out they have no authority unless you give it to them.
And congrats! If you ever need a sitter, call me! ;)
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Haven't figured out if that would be worse than random people asking me if I'm pregnant or why I haven't had the baby yet. Or assuming I must be pregnant because I feel sick. My usual response? Unless God thinks we need a redo of the whole Jesus thing, I'm not pregnant! O.o
Hope you get mostly good and kind comments! Will you post pics of baby or are you uncomfortable with that?
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The thing about not being the type of girl who does this sort of thing is that I think it changes your perspective on others--at least it did for me. I think it made me more compassionate and understanding and less judgmental.
I liked the repetition of the I've never been pregnant theme throughout.
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I agree with this comment. My pregnancy was planned, I had been with my husband for seven years when it happened, and we'd even bought the "requisite" house in the suburbs with a big yard and decent schools and not too much crime.
I was very firmly a Career Woman who was On The Way Up. This is the part we didn't plan for, because the second that baby was inside me, I didn't give a rat's ass about running on the corporate hamster wheel anymore.
You know all the people who complain about how horrid maternity leave is in the US? I thought they were all enormous whiners until I had my own child. And then I realized that if I'd had a year with my son like women in some countries do, things would have gone so differently. I realized all the subtle ways our society sets up working moms to fail. And it's harder ( ... )
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