If the person I love and does not love me then I get hurt in particular if this person knows far too much about me. I have never been in serious relationship. I think it is less hurtful if it is still based on mutual love. People fight sometimes in a relationship but afterwards they forgive each other again.
Wanting to know more about someone is a healthy interest; wanting to know everything has overtones of control-freakery and obsession.
It also suggests an inability to judge what's important - which must surely differ from person to person - and from the 'housekeeping' of remembering to breathe.
Finally we come to the category of 'things best left unexamined'... Even with the best intent, much harm can be done; but I take ill-intentions as a given when confronted with intrusive questions or surveillance, as personal secrets and private information have no good uses - the knowledge can only be misused, and it frequently is. Any of us would have reason to fear an individual who did not understand that (or did not appear to) and I am horrified by the idea that such an asocial creature might be granted unlimited powers of investigation, surveillance, data collation and disclosure
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It also suggests an inability to judge what's important - which must surely differ from person to person - and from the 'housekeeping' of remembering to breathe.
Finally we come to the category of 'things best left unexamined'... Even with the best intent, much harm can be done; but I take ill-intentions as a given when confronted with intrusive questions or surveillance, as personal secrets and private information have no good uses - the knowledge can only be misused, and it frequently is. Any of us would have reason to fear an individual who did not understand that (or did not appear to) and I am horrified by the idea that such an asocial creature might be granted unlimited powers of investigation, surveillance, data collation and disclosure ( ... )
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