I am an idiot. Or, stupid, petty, rant

[zaftig_darling]

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[celtic_flicka]

If I were in your shoes, I would just write her off. It's one thing if she was just a flake--you could tell her that the constant cancellings were making you feel bad and doubt the friendship, and it might change her behavior. But the craft thing? An intentional blowoff. She's being a bitch, and telling her that she hurt your feelings isn't going to make her have some big epiphany.

I would be pissed too, if I were you, but she's not worth your time, IMO.

[afrocurl]

I'm with J on this one, she's not worth it. Blow her off and focus on the friends who don't bail 90 percent of the time.

[dragynflies]

I'd be pissed too, I don't think you lose any Grown Up cred for being ticked off by her not showing up. And if she's trying to make me time, then she shouldn't be making damn lunch dates anyway.

I'd have lunch with you if we lived anywhere near each other.

As for her, I'd let her fade away...and then if she pops back and wants to have lunch you can say "Oh, I thought you were too busy" and blink all wide eyed. (Okay, sometimes I act like a child too. I'm waiting for Joe to realize he's been a douche and try to talk to me so I can open up a can of "things I've been wanting to say for ages." So maybe I don't give great advice.)

[celtic_flicka]

then if she pops back and wants to have lunch you can say "Oh, I thought you were too busy" and blink all wide eyed.

This is an excellent idea!

[wily_one24]

Unfortunately, I have to agree. Let this one go.

If you've made eighteen dates and she's made it to maybe two of them, then I'm sorry but she's treating you like a back up plan and believes you're always going to be there.

Maybe she "admitted" to being a bad friend, but that doesn't change her actions at all. It only makes her a douche, because she *knows* it.

Start saying "no" to her plans sometimes. "I'm not available" and even a "I don't want to" now and again.

Let her know that you're time is just as valuable as hers. And if she can't respect that (and you) then she can stick it.

[medjunkie]

I'm with the majority on this one, if she can't make time for your friendship, then she's not a good friend, ergo it's time for you to let that friendship sail.