Work Rant

[zannes]

I am so tired of the petty bullshit from this one parent that I'm counting down the months until her child graduates. Don't get me wrong, I love the kid, but the mom is a piece of work.  I've talked about my working relationship with this parent before - this is the mother who has severely curbed her daughter's independence to the point the girl

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[ariss_tenoh]

That's a tough situation when you're job is already stressful. I wonder if this mother is one of those parents who not only likes to control their child but whose self-worth is derived entirely from their children. I've met a few like that and it's harmful to both the child and parent.

[zannes]

Absolutely. This mother has no life outside of her child. When the child is not in school, she is at her mother's side 100% of the time. The mom really needs to get a hobby just so her child has some breathing space, not that the child would know what to do with her free time since mom has quashed every single instinct for independence that may have been in her child.

[ariss_tenoh]

It's sad when the parent themselves are harming their child and what's worse is that they are usually so convinced that they are right. As if having a child means they suddenly have a Phd in education and psychology^^

I feel for the girl truly but there's very little one can do to help. *sighs*

[sylvanwitch]

I work in an environment with a higher than average number of entitled parents of the Blackhawk variety (you know, hovering all the time). It's been my observation over long years of experience that the best thing that could happen to their kids is to go away to college, somewhere where they can breathe freely and find out for themselves what they're good at and what they enjoy, as opposed to what's expected of them or what mommy and daddy shove at them.

Too often, it's a truly toxic combination of stunted self-worth and projection. The poor kids haven't got a chance, seriously.

Anyway, all of that is just to say that I can completely empathize.

[zannes]

I wish going off to college was an option! The child has special needs, and she won't be able to live independently, but that doesn't mean she cannot learn to take care of her own personal needs. Mom won't even let her get out of the car in the morning to mingle with the other kids. She keeps her in the back seat and then sits with her in the office until the bell rings. She won't allow her free time at the end of the day and demands she be in a supervised class instead of out with the other kids. There is NO reason for any of this, just keeping her daughter tethered and just uncomfortable enough that the child doesn't feel she can do anything without mom by her side. It's so frustrating. School is the perfect place to test these boundaries since the child knows all of the kids and it's a safe environment. Mom keeps saying her child isn't ready, but I don't think mom is ever going to try to let her child do anything on her own. She's perfectly happy with her child needing her for everything.