That's awesome, really. :) It leads me to a question that I've really always had about you and your life though. And it is (and feel free to not answer if you'd like) does the person you've married know about these things you do? I'm just thinking the project making would be a bit hard to hide, but really I don't know. Do you mind telling me?
Not at all. Thanks for asking. Yes, she knows all about it but doesn't understand it. I think the essence of kink is kind of invisible to her. Unfortunately, it's seems to be a big part of how I relate to women, or how I want to, what makes me comfortable. I've been kinky all my life but because I was so ashamed of it and didn't understand or appreciate it, I hid from it rather than explore it. It leaked out here and there, and what I knew of it, I told my wife about long before we got married. I didn't really realize it, but it was as without meaning to her then as now, so it turns out that telling her was kind of pointless. We each kept hoping the other would change, and when we didn't, we went into denial mode for years
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Well cool. I'm glad, that's a good way to go. Hiding it would take it's toll, that's for sure. I worried about that a bit actually. Is she free to see others? Does she want to? Is that none of my business? Well of course it is, but you can tell me if you want. Take care you. :)
Well, I wouldn't put all this out there if I didn't want to share it. This is a nice safe place for that. Sure, she is free to see others. I think it would make me feel good, mostly. I'm sure I'd have a twinge of jealousy going on but would get over it. I'd really like her to be happy. I don't get the sense she's anxious to go looking for someone, but if someone finds her, who knows what would happen? I sometimes think about the ironic possibility that she ends up finding a great relationship and perhaps I never do. I can't worry about that - it wouldn't matter really. She didn't plan on marrying someone who wouldn't remain in denial his whole life - LOL. It is healthier and, I believe, ultimately happier to live our lives as we really are.
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It leads me to a question that I've really always had about you and your life though.
And it is (and feel free to not answer if you'd like) does the person you've married know about these things you do? I'm just thinking the project making would be a bit hard to hide, but really I don't know.
Do you mind telling me?
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Hiding it would take it's toll, that's for sure. I worried about that a bit actually.
Is she free to see others? Does she want to? Is that none of my business? Well of course it is, but you can tell me if you want.
Take care you. :)
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