I don't think there can be an objective list of things that make someone likable or unlikable. For any given individual, traits that draw them to another individual will vary based on what they value, what they want, and what they need at any given time.
Some things may be closer to universal than others. Listening well and showing genuine interest in what one has to say, for example, would probably appeal to most people. Being aggressively confrontational and insulting would probably have the opposite effect for most people. However, if the individual assessing the other enjoys confrontation and is argumentative by nature, they may be accepting of someone who will meet those interests.
The question has to be taken subjectively. That said, what traits do you find make people most appealing to you? Of those traits, which do you feel could use improvement? If people are drawn to those like themselves, meeting your own standards will both improve your own self-image and make you more appealing to others of like mind.
Most of the people I like have different things to offer and different qualities that I like about them. You definitely have likable qualities IMO. You can start and hold a conversation, make jokes and references that are actually funny, be hang-out-with-able(lol) when drunk and sober, you don't make unnecessary waves, you have mostly good taste, etc.
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Some things may be closer to universal than others. Listening well and showing genuine interest in what one has to say, for example, would probably appeal to most people. Being aggressively confrontational and insulting would probably have the opposite effect for most people. However, if the individual assessing the other enjoys confrontation and is argumentative by nature, they may be accepting of someone who will meet those interests.
The question has to be taken subjectively. That said, what traits do you find make people most appealing to you? Of those traits, which do you feel could use improvement? If people are drawn to those like themselves, meeting your own standards will both improve your own self-image and make you more appealing to others of like mind.
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