You're in the home stretch! I think my sister is a few weeks behind you. She is due August 18th but I hope she has her little girl early so I don't have to visit NY so much in August. lol
I'm glad you are doing well minus the acid reflux. One of my old co-workers had acid reflux her entire pregnancy and her son has it too. She had to feed him in an upright position.
I read that article the other day. I think it's definitely true, but "happiness" is kind of hard to quantify. Cecilia accidentally burping into her toy microphone last night was pretty priceless though and worth it.
Yeah- it's funny- I didn't decide to have a kid because it would make me happier. I don't think that being the mother of young children made my mother particularly happy. However, now that we are adults and functional and my parents get to enjoy the good job they did raising us, I think that the payoff is pretty big.
I dunno- I just hope I can do this with a sense of community (having my Aunt here and maybe may parents in a couple of years will help A LOT) and not take things too seriously and have fun.
Totally - and I'd like to think that after the initial few years of "survival mode" parenting (which I think the article addresses, up until teenage years, which if you were my parents, were not ALL that difficult for I was a nerd), it gets much easier.
I can tell you now that 17-18 months is MUCH more fun than 0-3 months.
And community is totally part of it. I'm always more happy when we're with family and/or friends.
Also, it seems like some people are just asswipes too. The dude down the street from us does not seem to garner much enjoyment from his children, but I don't think he knows how to or lets himself.
I can only speak for myself as far as having a child and happiness. I couldn't tell you if having a child makes me happier but it does make me feel like, well, more, like I have all this emotion in me now that I did not even know that I was capable of feeling. I have never felt for anyone the depth of emotion that I now feel for Gideon, and also for Seth, since Gideon was born. But this new level of feeling makes me sadder and more nervous about certain things, too. But it is worth ot because this door just opened and I feel like I am exploring this whole new part of myself.
Also, the only time being a Mom drove me to drink is when I started drinking a beer a day with dinner to help with my milk production.
Ha ha- that's an awesome excuse to drink, though! By the way, I bought my pump. I keep thinking of you for inspiration. I even tried it out and it was hilarious. What types of bottle nipples did Gideon like early on?
I asked Seth because he bought them and he said that they were the little baby ones. I will ask him again tomorrow when he is not half asleep. G was not really picky about stuff like that, though.
Those type of articles scare the bejeezus out of me, but I think overall, people have a high and somewhat unreasonable threshold before they consider themselves happy. Even my doctor told me (repeatedly) about his horribly behaved teenagers (before I was even pregnant), but he said it was overall a win, because of what he called, "the sun breaking through the clouds" moments.
I think that the people who expect babies to make them happier are the same people who expect that marriage will make them happier. Happy is something you create yourself - it is bolstered or hampered by your environment, but ultimately you play a role in deciding your happiness.
I keep telling myself that while having babies is a lot of work, it will be worth it. People have been doing it for hundreds of years...it can't be all that bad, right?
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I'm glad you are doing well minus the acid reflux. One of my old co-workers had acid reflux her entire pregnancy and her son has it too. She had to feed him in an upright position.
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I read that article the other day. I think it's definitely true, but "happiness" is kind of hard to quantify. Cecilia accidentally burping into her toy microphone last night was pretty priceless though and worth it.
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I dunno- I just hope I can do this with a sense of community (having my Aunt here and maybe may parents in a couple of years will help A LOT) and not take things too seriously and have fun.
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Totally - and I'd like to think that after the initial few years of "survival mode" parenting (which I think the article addresses, up until teenage years, which if you were my parents, were not ALL that difficult for I was a nerd), it gets much easier.
I can tell you now that 17-18 months is MUCH more fun than 0-3 months.
And community is totally part of it. I'm always more happy when we're with family and/or friends.
Also, it seems like some people are just asswipes too. The dude down the street from us does not seem to garner much enjoyment from his children, but I don't think he knows how to or lets himself.
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Also, the only time being a Mom drove me to drink is when I started drinking a beer a day with dinner to help with my milk production.
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By the way, I bought my pump. I keep thinking of you for inspiration. I even tried it out and it was hilarious. What types of bottle nipples did Gideon like early on?
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Are you going to stay at home permanently?
Those type of articles scare the bejeezus out of me, but I think overall, people have a high and somewhat unreasonable threshold before they consider themselves happy. Even my doctor told me (repeatedly) about his horribly behaved teenagers (before I was even pregnant), but he said it was overall a win, because of what he called, "the sun breaking through the clouds" moments.
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I keep telling myself that while having babies is a lot of work, it will be worth it. People have been doing it for hundreds of years...it can't be all that bad, right?
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