I feel this is written badly. Whatever. Summer Romances.

[zevhonith]

I wrote, sometime around June, that it's difficult to be single in the summer. desert_boy wondered whether I meant that it was hard dealing with being single, or that it was hard to avoid dating anyone

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[zevhonith]

Yeah, meeting people. That is the hard part, isn't it?

You have quite the social pool to dip into, though, if you so desired. Example, L.'s upcoming Halloween party. And all the hundred-odd people who will be somehow connected to that. :)

Meeting people is the part I occasionally despair over - I shall be addressing that if/when I get into the depressing odds regarding the alchemy of love, and why I think I'll die alone.

:P

[zevhonith]

Aw, thank you! We can combine kitty forces, even, so that we'll be sure to have enough kitties to eat all of our flesh after we die.

Truth be told, I don't *really* think I'll die alone. I think I'll die in a nursing home next to Kai. Luckily, she also has a cat, and a small dog, so we'll be set on the disposal of bodies.

[desert_boy]

There is a certain aesthetic about being single in the autunm. You drink your coffee, watch the leaves fall, and listen to old U2 albums in the car. I was just thinking, as I walked up the hill to my apartment, that at this time of year, everything has a sad beauty about it; even loneliness. Loneliness can be sad and beautiful at the same time.

[zevhonith]

I agree.

I think everything in life can be beautiful if you find the right language to describe it with. And sadness is so much more tolerable when it's beautiful.

[phaedrine]

At first, when I was reading this, I thought it was excellent but didn't apply towards me. I don't have summer relationships.

Then I thought back over the last, oh, four or five, which is the last seven or eight years. The only one of those relationships that was a summer relationship was my ex-fiance, Jim. For many years, I've said that the relationship with Jim should have only been a 6 month sort of thing. Because it was a summer relationship.

[zevhonith]

I wondered what you would think about it, actually, because most of the sweeping statements I make about seasons and how they affect our emotions *don't* apply to you.

I think it's hard to break up, pretty much all the time, and so it's not unusual for summer relationships to get extended. And once you head into winter, it's so much harder to break up, and it ends up becoming this whole big thing with an extremely crappy foundation, and that's just no good. Better to end while it's relatively easy to do so.

[phaedrine]

Heh, sweepting statements and emotions need not apply...

Yeah, it was something I really should have ended early on. However, I'm the person I am now because of it blah blah blah...whatever. Circumstances were such that I didn't see that it should have ended early until much later. NOW, I'm a lot wiser. I hope.