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[zgnix]

One of the first things a relationship therapist learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the purpose of using up energy, so that the couple do not have to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of

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[kevinexx]

hhmm... so is that a good thing or not .. from one glance, it seems as if he felt that arguing is a good thing... or does he means that with more arguments, it restricts the couple from being creative

[zgnix]

to me..i think it means arguing is actually a means of escaping from "something". It could escaping from facing ur own jealousy, insecurity etc about oneself or about moving forward in the relationship. So it is actually a form of escapism in a relationship?

[jemtoh]

I though a 'creative breakthrough' in this case refers to doing something more errm disasterous like breaking up

[jemtoh]

thought*

[zgnix]

hahaha... agree,,it may be breakup... or accepting or coming to an agreement or compromise..example from a close relationship to a open one

[hallowen2nit]

I once had a lover before Kent. Smart looking, well built body, a much more better quality than the one I have now. Our relation last for a year and in this whole year we had only argued once which results to an end of our relationship. I had been with Kent for almost 8 years now and had been having countless of arguments from small to big problems. To me, arguing is not an "escape" from a new breakthrough. In fact I think that is just some way of letting a person voice out how and what he felt. Some might say that having a discussion is more better than having an argue but to some people like myself wont tell out how I really felt by just having a discussion. I would be more like the guys with no comments and would had accepted anything the opposition had requested just like my previous relationship. We discussed about everything and didnt had an argument cause I just keep everything I felt and want to myself. In the end when the argue starts and I started telling him how I actually felt, he just cant accept the fact and ended the

[zgnix]

Agree..to different couples, the mode of communication is also different. Some discuss, some argue,some complain, some write to each other etc etc. As long as the other party gets and feels correctly what u are trying to put across. I guess what the above "argue" does not literally mean those quarrel sessions. It may means dispute, disagreement or unhappiness over certain issues and not being able to come to a concensus or conclusion mutually that bring the relationship to another platform..thats why there is always a saying "Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments; they've had the same argument hundreds of times."

[hallowen2nit]

i think i would prefer the phrase being honest than having the argue. to have a long lasting relationship, being honest to both urself and ur partner is rather important. we both know u r good at that lar... so long live to ur love... haha...

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