Say NO to Bullying - Andrea, her Mitch drabble, and Me

Jan 21, 2011 18:58



Say NO to Bullying - Andrea, her Mitch drabble, and Me
I NEVER expect my second journal will be something like this.

Several days ago I received a VERY NASTY message from Andrea (grieving_pln) accusing me to be a fraud and loser. At the same time she said there are readers there (at least five of them, with number increasing by the day) who want to ( Read more... )

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Well Said dontwanttosaygb January 23 2011, 02:56:22 UTC
It is several years since I have even posted in this fandom. I haven't even read a fic in more than 2 years, but I really felt the need to comment on this post ( ... )

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Re: Well Said lv2walk January 23 2011, 04:14:44 UTC
Interesting comment since I'm not one of the treasured long-timers. So it's always interesting to me to hear what long-timers have to say, the ones who have been around since BBM came out. I think I missed out on so much ( ... )

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Re: Well Said zhouhua00 January 24 2011, 01:32:47 UTC
...there were many authors that wanted the adoration of a public but didn't want to pay any cost for being in the public...

That is quite right, Ted.

Actually I was pretty gentle with g_p. It is just I look at her sand castle and couldn't bring myself to admire it as Buckingham Palace.

Honestly I was shocked by her dirty tricks of name calling and bullying, you think if she had been in the community for so long she should have known better. Unfortunately she doesn't.

Thank you for your sopport!

Hua

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bcatjr January 23 2011, 15:41:37 UTC
Hi Hua~

I have been out of the fandom for over a year, almost two maybe. But I do keep up some. When I heard about this incident and saw this post, I had to come and say something in support of you. NO ONE gets to call another
a loser and a fraud. That is a personal attack and totally uncalled for. I can't believe the same message was sent to bbm_citygirl who was a good friend of mine. Crazy!! Seems gp is attacking from a place of fear.

Your points are valid in questioning a MO!Ennis story, but it seems a nerve was hit thus the fallout that is happening now. The author should realize that instead of attacking her readers.

I think the only people that can write a "true" MO story would be a gay man, as he would know what it's like to be in that spot.

Anyway...wanted to offer up some words of support. Seems some have failed to get what the real message of
BBM was all about.

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Thank for your support zhouhua00 January 24 2011, 00:49:22 UTC
Thank for very much your support!

You know, usually when you accused someone to be a fraud you need to at least have some proof. Obviously g_p doesn't think it is necessary. It looks like she is very used to call anyone names if the person fails to compliment her.

Oh yes, I can easily see that she bullies people not only because she doesn't know any better, but also because she is scared. She built a sand castle and imagined that is Buckingham Palace. When I told her it was only a sand castle, she threw a huge temper tantrum like a spoiled 3-year-old who had his favorite toy taken away.

I just added you as a friend. please add me as well.

Hua

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annabirmingham January 24 2011, 14:52:01 UTC
Hua, I'm sorry to hear that you have been called names after leaving comments. Sure, as a writer it can be hard to accept concrit, but as you say, you have to take the rough with the smooth if you post publically. One of my stories received a fair bit of attention on a discussion forum recently and some of the comments were less than complimentary, but even though I didn't change anything about the story (it is mine after all!) it did make me think. I talked things over with my beta and then just carried on writing as before. Never once did I think to call anyone names, they are entitled to their opinion as are the readers who leave positive comments :)

Just wanted to add my support and say sorry that you have been attacked like this.
Anna x

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I am SO moved by your message zhouhua00 January 24 2011, 15:32:07 UTC
Oh Anna,

I can NOT tell you how much I am moved by your message.

I have received plenty of support after I published this journal, but your support is something different. You have a little baby who is barely one-month-old and with a toddler running around I can only imagine how hectic your life is. Yet you take your precious time to come here and show me your support. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate it.

You know, I really do this for Joey. I am a mother and I need to set up a good example for my son. I want to say NO to Andrea's bullying loud and clear, and that's what I did.

I heard g_p is a grandma. I do not know what kind of example she wants to set up for her grandchildren. Does she want them to grow up to be bullies like her, or does she want them to be bullied like me? I simply feel so bad for the poor kids.

Again, thank you very much for coming. You will be happy to know I am going to publish a mini-serial about Homosexuality in China starting today. You are more than welcome to come and read!

Hua

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Re: I am SO moved by your message annabirmingham January 25 2011, 10:42:15 UTC
You're welcome :) When I'm sat alone, nursing, at 5am (with my iPhone!) it's nice to catch up with what is going on in the world. I'll be sure to read your posts - the Chinese culture interests me, as it's so different from the British one. Speak soon!

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bbm_citygirl January 25 2011, 22:33:29 UTC
Hi Hua ( ... )

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g_p the bully zhouhua00 January 26 2011, 02:39:10 UTC
Hi Grace ( ... )

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Spine milomorris January 29 2011, 01:10:20 UTC
Hua,

Thank you for having the spine to post this, and expose g_p's bullying.

I agree with everything that you wrote and then some. I read and enjoyed Mitch Drabbles up to the point where Mitch and Ennis bond over their respective losses (MD60 - Revelation, Part B). That was g_p's original ending. And I was satisfied with that. But then she came back 2 and a half years later, and IMO, ruined the story with an unbelievable plot. Its not that I don't think Mitch and Ennis could have anything. Quite the opposite, I was hoping they would, and I sort of finished the story in my head back in 2007. What bugs me is the things you pointed out. It doesn't make any sense to me, and what I saw emerging did not seem in character for either Mitch or Ennis.

I'm sorry that you and bbm_citygirl are being harassed like this. And I'm glad to see that you are not taking it lying down.

Corragio!!!

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Re: Spine zhouhua00 January 30 2011, 16:41:58 UTC
Thank you very much for your support!

g_p wrote this romance fantasy to solve her own problem. And I will be happy to leave her in her small world if she didn't bully me.

I am glad I wrote this journal as well. It is long overdue someone stands up and say NO to g_p's bullying.

Hua

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