Childless Uncle

[zionchild]

I recently found out I'm going to be an uncle, quite an exciting event! Calling up the relatives, getting their reactions to everything, etc. A huge thing, and I'm not really done processing it yet, so this note isn't entirely about that (although I don't know if I'll write one - it's pretty personal

Comments

[aya_blue]

Thanks for posting. I'm in a similar position, and agree and empathize with 99% of what you just wrote, including the adoption option.

(My only differing opinion is that I think people mean emotionally, not necessarily financially, when they say no one is really ready to have a kid.)

I agree that childless by choice is becoming more popular. Unfortunately, a seemingly large part of that population finds it acceptable to resent other people's choices, and assumes that all children are like the screaming little monster at the grocery store. Its unfortunate. We both have worked in the school systems and know that kids can be absolutely fantastic.

Anywhoo, thanks again. Its nice to know that someone else is considering the same issues and arguments.

[charisangel]

Well said... and I agree 100% about adoption. Those statistics make me so sad... I know a couple who adopted both of their children (one domestic, one from China) and they're two of the most amazing kids I know. I would love to be able to do that someday. (and good to know I'm not the only one who thinks 3-6 is about perfect. Diapers freak me out. *non-maternal* :D)

[psycho_rayne]

I learned I couldn't have children when I was sixteen years old. The doctor said it was a fifty-fifty thing back then, and when I redid the test this year, it was the same. Even if I did conceive, the kid could take on all my health issues (anemia, or hypoglycemia, or even diabetes) and may not live very long.

So it was a hard choice there. Because it is possible that there's some miracle that Luke and I could have kids, but he doesn't really want them; I don't know if I do or not, and I think this is one of those things you should be 100% on.

I think, if and when we do have kids, we'll adopt. You're right, those kids need a home, and our planet is already crazy overpopulated. Might as well help those who are already here. <3