To clarify my choice of answers -staciadeviMay 18 2007, 15:02:02 UTC
I would only "choose" to be around someone who obviously didn't care for me if I couldn't avoid it. But, I wouldn't go out of my way to avoid them, either - as long as we're both grownups about it, & don't drag others into it.
i'll say that my answers could vary greatly depending on what the situation was, who the person was, what our normal interactions were, etc.
also, depending on the omission (and WHY the info was omitted), it could very well be as bad or worse than an outright lie.
i would definitely say that i'd respect someone more for telling me th truth (even if it hurts) than lying to me or not telling me something i should know if i'm going to keep interacting with them in certain ways.
as for not choosing to be around them - that would all have to do with what really happened. i assume from question 2 that #3 and #4 are more geared towards someone admitting to not liking someone, and not to lying in general. that being said, i wouldn't go out of my way TO spend time with them, but i might not put in extra effort to avoid them (especially in certain social circles) either.
1. Though the situation may vary, lying is usually a no-no and unacceptable. Omissions tend to fall in the same category, but omissions may not be intentional.
2. I'll respect them if they tell me and IF their reasoning is sound. Disliking me for a valid reason is one thing; disliking me because of a first impression, sexual orientation or some other such superfluous nonsense is another. The latter case will render you well below my attention, let alone my respect.
3. Assuming I can avoid them tastefully, no. You never know where they stand and that's a dangerous situation to put yourself in. Oh, and being a coward is another thing I have no patience for.
4. Again, assuming tasteful avoidance, no. If their reasons are valid, we'll never get along; if their reasons aren't valid, They're idiots and, frankly, I deal with enough of those every day.
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also, depending on the omission (and WHY the info was omitted), it could very well be as bad or worse than an outright lie.
i would definitely say that i'd respect someone more for telling me th truth (even if it hurts) than lying to me or not telling me something i should know if i'm going to keep interacting with them in certain ways.
as for not choosing to be around them - that would all have to do with what really happened. i assume from question 2 that #3 and #4 are more geared towards someone admitting to not liking someone, and not to lying in general. that being said, i wouldn't go out of my way TO spend time with them, but i might not put in extra effort to avoid them (especially in certain social circles) either.
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2. I'll respect them if they tell me and IF their reasoning is sound. Disliking me for a valid reason is one thing; disliking me because of a first impression, sexual orientation or some other such superfluous nonsense is another. The latter case will render you well below my attention, let alone my respect.
3. Assuming I can avoid them tastefully, no. You never know where they stand and that's a dangerous situation to put yourself in. Oh, and being a coward is another thing I have no patience for.
4. Again, assuming tasteful avoidance, no. If their reasons are valid, we'll never get along; if their reasons aren't valid, They're idiots and, frankly, I deal with enough of those every day.
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