Sweety, how do i put it this way? If you want to move on, then move on for yourself, but if you are going to step out of one door and into another one, you'll just hurt yourself more. You can't "use" another intention to forget your regret. Think out of the box, think about what will happen afterwards, answers aren't always going to be here to help you= so you need to think..."can i really change the feelings in my heart, whether love or pain, and if i can, for whom, what, and why?" But i think you might need to settle down before you just jump into something else- because if you do- it'll come back to bite you in the ass. hope this isn't too confusing- take care sweety :]
I guess that's another problem I have too. How long does this 'settling down' take? I thought time will dilute everything, but it's been six years, and I think I still have a lot of leftover feelings. It should be about time to move on, I just don't know how.
i'm not very good in this field but i'll try^^ hmm for a relationsship to work out, sincerity is utmost important^^ and 1st love is good but love to come is better~ so give 2nd chance to yourself to love someone else fully^^ zorata, sorry~ i can't be of much help and gudluck ne *hugs*
I never really thought about it this way, about giving myself a chance. I think I was working so hard to stop liking someone that I don't know how to move on.
I definitely don't intend to hurt this other person, but sometimes it comes unintentionally. Of course, it would be a lot easier to figure out the problem if I have this new person, but seeing how this is all hypothetical, it's hard to know. I don't really want to look for someone new until I'm completely sure to take this step. As I said, I don't want to hurt people unintentionally either.
Thank you for the advice~~! I'll remember your example XD
Unnie-ah, consider that i'm younger than you, and since i haven't got a bf yet, so i really think so simple abt love... So plz forgive, if my reply doesn't make sense at all...
Unnie-ah, if that was a unrequited love, then please move on, no matter what...
Even if there are no love waiting in front of you, even if how much does it hurt to leave sth as precious as your love... but please go ahead, and love yourself...
I believe that, we have to love ourselves first, before loving anyone else... Make yourself happy, before make anyone else happy...
Unnie-ah... do what you, and your heart wants to do...
Unnie-ah... i know my words can't help you at all, but i love you, unnie-ah... So i will support you, no matter what... I want you smile, and my unnie can be happy... so, plz do whatever that make you smile and happy, and i will support you, with my wholeheart...
I really do try to move on. It's just been so long now, and i feel like whatever that i've done is not working. I definitely don't want to be trapped in this unrequited love. I know by now that I won't fall back into it, but i can't seem to go forward either.
I guess the greatest frustration is that I don't know what I want. Maybe I can't put my heart into moving on. What my brain wants to do, my heart tugs back.
Thank you for the support. I still really appreciate your opinions and thoughts. =D
Your mind tells you to move on, but your heart refuses to do that... ...Is that what's you meant, unnie-ah...???
I guess i can't help you, then... But let's me tell you this... your heart juz tugs back when it comes to love... right??? Then, juz focus in the other things in your life...
Like would you mind to tell me, how's the weather like today in your place...??? Is it sunny...or is it cloudy...???
What's your favourite popcorn's flavor at the moment???
Do the maple leaves turn red in your place??? ^^
Juz those little things in your life...
^___^ Unnie-ah, now, when your mind wants to think abt the future, but your heart keeps thinking abt the past... then let your soul focuses in the presentDo you know, today is the future of yesterday
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I took your advice and went on a crazy discussion (or argument) about dbsk's lack of clothing on someone's lj post. It was a....very good distraction. Didn't really enjoy half of it, but i feel like I'm getting my english skills back. XD
"Loving someone doesn't mean having someone..."
I came to terms with that six years ago. It was a painful decision, but I didn't regret it. Although it was hard to continuously love someone without getting anything back, I won't wish I made a different decision.
I think it would help if I don't keep it as a secret anymore. I thought I was gonna take it to my grave, but the burden is just too much. I never told anyone what happened. It'll be a long and difficult story to tell.
Thank you very much ruby-chan. It helped a lot. =] much appreciated.
But love, is painful if it isn't given back isn't it? (oh gah i'm still young what do i know but i know the feeling when i like someone alot that ass doesn't like me - oh yes i'm quite vulgar >____>) . . So please forgive me if my reply doesn't make much sense and sounds just stupid
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"But of course you can still love him and move on to somebody else, its not wrong, I hope you get what I mean. "
Is it really? It's what I've been trying to do for years now, but I feel so guilty about it. =\
I've decided a long time ago that I would love forever but never be together. It was a painful decision, but I never regretted it. The problem now is that I am drained. I feel like I don't have any more love to give. I feel like I don't have to capability to love, and it would be so unfair if I move onto someone else now.
Don't worry, I understand what you are saying. You basically said what's on my mind. It helped me come to terms with some stuff too. Thank you <3
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Thanks for the advice by the way.
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hmm for a relationsship to work out, sincerity is utmost important^^ and 1st love is good but love to come is better~ so give 2nd chance to yourself to love someone else fully^^
zorata, sorry~ i can't be of much help and gudluck ne *hugs*
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I never really thought about it this way, about giving myself a chance. I think I was working so hard to stop liking someone that I don't know how to move on.
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Thank you for the advice~~! I'll remember your example XD
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So plz forgive, if my reply doesn't make sense at all...
Unnie-ah, if that was a unrequited love, then please move on, no matter what...
Even if there are no love waiting in front of you, even if how much does it hurt to leave sth as precious as your love... but please go ahead, and love yourself...
I believe that, we have to love ourselves first, before loving anyone else... Make yourself happy, before make anyone else happy...
Unnie-ah... do what you, and your heart wants to do...
Unnie-ah... i know my words can't help you at all, but i love you, unnie-ah...
So i will support you, no matter what... I want you smile, and my unnie can be happy... so, plz do whatever that make you smile and happy, and i will support you, with my wholeheart...
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I guess the greatest frustration is that I don't know what I want. Maybe I can't put my heart into moving on. What my brain wants to do, my heart tugs back.
Thank you for the support. I still really appreciate your opinions and thoughts. =D
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...Is that what's you meant, unnie-ah...???
I guess i can't help you, then...
But let's me tell you this... your heart juz tugs back when it comes to love... right???
Then, juz focus in the other things in your life...
Like would you mind to tell me, how's the weather like today in your place...??? Is it sunny...or is it cloudy...???
What's your favourite popcorn's flavor at the moment???
Do the maple leaves turn red in your place??? ^^
Juz those little things in your life...
^___^ Unnie-ah, now, when your mind wants to think abt the future, but your heart keeps thinking abt the past... then let your soul focuses in the presentDo you know, today is the future of yesterday ( ... )
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I took your advice and went on a crazy discussion (or argument) about dbsk's lack of clothing on someone's lj post. It was a....very good distraction. Didn't really enjoy half of it, but i feel like I'm getting my english skills back. XD
"Loving someone doesn't mean having someone..."
I came to terms with that six years ago. It was a painful decision, but I didn't regret it. Although it was hard to continuously love someone without getting anything back, I won't wish I made a different decision.
I think it would help if I don't keep it as a secret anymore. I thought I was gonna take it to my grave, but the burden is just too much. I never told anyone what happened. It'll be a long and difficult story to tell.
Thank you very much ruby-chan. It helped a lot. =] much appreciated.
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Is it really? It's what I've been trying to do for years now, but I feel so guilty about it. =\
I've decided a long time ago that I would love forever but never be together. It was a painful decision, but I never regretted it. The problem now is that I am drained. I feel like I don't have any more love to give. I feel like I don't have to capability to love, and it would be so unfair if I move onto someone else now.
Don't worry, I understand what you are saying. You basically said what's on my mind. It helped me come to terms with some stuff too. Thank you <3
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