I think it's natural for all this change to bring more change. When did you start the T? I think given a few more months of getting used to the T you will find confidence in your new "surroundings". I know that even with my normal womanly hormone changes my feelings, thoughts and attractions change too. It even depends month to month. Try not to pin any labels on yourself just yet. Your outlook is still very dynamic at this point and several months down the road you could feel dramatically different. Just go with your feelings day by day and enjoy them for what they are. They may change tomorrow, and who cares? Enjoy yourself then too.
I started at the beginning of last month. It's not so much the confidence in me, it's the knowledge I'm lacking when it comes to what women want. Hell, I know that's cliche', I never even thought about it before, cause I didn't feel it fit me. But now I am curious, do they care about the genitals as much as men? I know this is a case by case basis, but I guess I was asking for general opinions. Cause I know a large sum of gay guys want only dick. I know a large sum of straight men like only female genitals (see, I can't even say the slang cause I'm not comfortable with it, I never have been comfortable with female parts, cause it always made me feel negative towards my own body.) So, is it the same for a large sum of "straight" females, or are they more open. That's where my curiosities lie.
I realize I am and will change often, I just want to try and prepare myself for the non-queer and curious world, especially of females, cause I am completely un-aware.
I have recently been getting to know and doing a little looking around in the FTM area. I never really paid much attention to it. My other FTM friend (who is far more on the fence of what he is going to do as far as transitioning) showed me a site with tons of pics with dudes who used to be chicks. I was amazed. It's not like I didn't know that a female could look that male, but it just made me think. And I think I appreciate the male body more because of it. I lust for all these feminine attributes and I never thought that anyone would want the masculine ones. I really kind of formed a new appreciation for body hair once I saw how important it is to some people. It's interesting.
Not that this had anything much to do with your entry. hehe As far as attraction goes, I am sure there are just as many truly loving women out there who have an attraction to trans men.
That would be nice. Maybe it's the fact that the women would be attracted to transguys, and not just me as a guy that makes me frustrated. I mean, they may find me attractive, but then not accept my body underneath my clothes. Y'know.
Ugh, it's terrible. It's all so complicated! But I know that there are many who will and do see you as the man you are. Not the trans man. You've always been a man to me. I was shocked to find out you were anything but 100% Grade A Man Steak! ;)
PS: If I could give you my side burns, I WOULD! haha
Fuck I have never been straight so truly I am not sure. That and most of my friends are queer so I don't know. hmmm I will have to get back to you on that :0
I am reminded at this moment of what my pal spikesandstuds has said about being attracted to people. Basically, her line is that she has always been attracted more to what is between a person's ears and not what is between their legs. Perhaps you are just going through a moment in your overall journey in life where you are needing feminine energy around you for some reason. I don't think it should cause for alarm at all. You are already open to addressing your feelings. Just continue listening to your body and I predict all will go well.
I know I am more attracted to what's between the ears, I just fear about what attracts those I am attracted too. Say that even two times fast.
I am listening to my body and not really freaking out about the change, I think it's rather interesting. My problem as stated above and in other responses is the idea of what women care about or want in a body or genitalia for a partner. Do they place as much focus on genitalia as most men or are they generally more open. I'm mostly refering to straight women, just cause I'm curious. And also sometimes I feel like they would be some of the only women attracted to my growing male-ness. Even though I still am attracted to lesbians.
The persona of our society is tough. They pretty much teach that size matters etc when its not really true. Unfortunately with my own confusions i had to be with many guys in order to come to the realization that its the person you are with and not the size (or lack of size or lack of dick etc) that really counts. In essence sex doesnt really matter, i view it as a way to be more intimate with someone, but i think that i could live without it (if the situation had it where i couldnt have it from my parner) the thing is that i'm a girl of options, So i would be creative in that area and make it work. For example - my current lover is a guy, but he has some bi tendancies. though he chooses to be with me instead of other guys, we have talked about closing in that gap to fulfil him in that way. (ie- me with strap-on for him) i've probably enclosed too much detail. but i was just trying to give an example that would show how comprimise can work.
There's never too much with me, I'm a very open person. I'm glad you guys could come to such a great comprimise. I love when people are open with each other and what they need/want/desire, etc. I appreciate you sharing with me, it does give me hope for future relationship comprimises.
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I know that even with my normal womanly hormone changes my feelings, thoughts and attractions change too. It even depends month to month. Try not to pin any labels on yourself just yet. Your outlook is still very dynamic at this point and several months down the road you could feel dramatically different. Just go with your feelings day by day and enjoy them for what they are. They may change tomorrow, and who cares? Enjoy yourself then too.
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So, is it the same for a large sum of "straight" females, or are they more open. That's where my curiosities lie.
I realize I am and will change often, I just want to try and prepare myself for the non-queer and curious world, especially of females, cause I am completely un-aware.
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Not that this had anything much to do with your entry. hehe As far as attraction goes, I am sure there are just as many truly loving women out there who have an attraction to trans men.
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PS: If I could give you my side burns, I WOULD! haha
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although i'll miss being sexed at by you.
but chicks are hott dude.
eat it up!
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I know you are bi, but the straight girls you know, are they all caught up in genitalia or are they more open?
Going out as hang out or going out as in "going out"? lol.
Funny question, but I'm curious, so I had to ask.
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Perhaps you are just going through a moment in your overall journey in life where you are needing feminine energy around you for some reason. I don't think it should cause for alarm at all. You are already open to addressing your feelings. Just continue listening to your body and I predict all will go well.
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I am listening to my body and not really freaking out about the change, I think it's rather interesting. My problem as stated above and in other responses is the idea of what women care about or want in a body or genitalia for a partner. Do they place as much focus on genitalia as most men or are they generally more open. I'm mostly refering to straight women, just cause I'm curious. And also sometimes I feel like they would be some of the only women attracted to my growing male-ness. Even though I still am attracted to lesbians.
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I appreciate you sharing with me, it does give me hope for future relationship comprimises.
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