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1trinagirl

Romantically Challenged

Sep 16, 2005 17:17

So, I guess I have a sort of "little club". I have several friends (both men and women) that are out in the dating scene along with me..................and we are just confused. I mean it is tough to understand this whole dating/relationship phenomenon. You get out there in the mix and you find that there are some great people.........and some ( Read more... )

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Well... anonymous September 19 2005, 03:17:00 UTC

I'll agree that change is hard and it seems to get harder the older we get. And maybe what is really sad is the thought that you lose a witness for that chunk of time in life. Espeacially if you don't remain friends. I suppose there are no definates in life. With that said I think you have to live everyday with whomever you choose to be with, without taking it for granted cause it may end... Sounds cliche or negative but I think it's the key to surviving. I see your dought and dispair for dating and finding a new mate, but when someone comes along that has his own greatness and you let him in your past will heal and you can let go of your lost love. Timimg is everything and everone is drifting at different speeds. We should feel lucky to ever connect for any amount of time, short or long. You will love again. And he will be the luckier than he knows.

R

Re: Well... 1trinagirl September 21 2005, 16:49:53 UTC

Thanks R---
Letting go and moving on can be difficult........but time heals all that. I know that when it is right.....it will happen. Somewhere out there, "he" is getting ready for me and in the meantime......in some sub-conscious way....I guess I am getting ready for him.

anonymous September 20 2005, 01:22:04 UTC

Hey Trina - love your blog! If real estate doesn’t work out, maybe you should consider becoming a writer ( ... )

1trinagirl September 21 2005, 16:56:21 UTC

Sure Nick! New members (or entire franchises) are welcome! Also, thanks for the sweet words about the blog.

Yes, you are right about spending the time and learning about each other in all aspects......it is so important. I have been a serial long term relationship girl my entire life. So, I guess for right now, I am learning about the variety that is the dating pool. Believe me though, I do exactly what you say and take the time to learn about people. It seems in today's world that people have so many layers to unfold in discovering the true being.

Thanks for the awesome comment!!

anonymous September 23 2005, 04:21:41 UTC

Thanks for responding, Trina -- sounds like you have a very healthy approach to relationships. I’m sure this will pay off for you eventually.

Here’s a quick example of why I appreciate your blog: In one entry, you talk about how your Mawmaw, though deaf, went on to become a music teacher. When I read this, I was blown away. Four years ago I lost the hearing in my right ear, and also developed tinnitus (i.e., noise that never stops). I’m also musically inclined, and it was disheartening to say the least. Your story about Mawmaw reminded me that others have even greater challenges, and that we don’t have to let such things limit us if we’re determined. I know she’s an inspiration to you, and by sharing her story it inspires me and, I’m sure, others.

So, blessings to you and your wonderful family, and thanks for sharing!

Nick
Nick8004@aol.com

WOW! 1trinagirl September 25 2005, 04:32:32 UTC

Yes, my Mawmaw is more than AWESOME......it is such an inspirational story....and since I was a special needs teacher for so many years.....it is a reminder to me what ANYONE (with disabilities or otherwise) can do with their lives.

Good luck with your music.......I am sure that you have many gifts!!!

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HI. anonymous September 20 2005, 20:54:59 UTC

I was just wondering if I could join the TRC club? Finally a club I can relate to.
Duane

Re: HI. 1trinagirl September 21 2005, 16:58:04 UTC

hahahahahaha! Sure Duane! You too, huh? Well, welcome to the club and just know that you are supported in all your dating endevours by your fellow members!!!

anonymous September 25 2005, 02:58:40 UTC

It’s funny because not too long ago I was pondering about a similar dilemma to the one you and E discussed. The fact is we spend our entire lives searching for the acceptance and love of someone else. Ultimately, it’s as though we are searching for ourselves in the other person’s feelings. No matter how deep our feelings are for someone they will always fail us in some way; the same way we will fail them since human beings are not perfect. As an alternative to this, I’ve developed a kind of infatuation for myself. It may sound arrogant and selfish at first, but when you do this you learn a great deal about yourself and have much potential to offer others. Realistically this doesn’t last a lifetime. I’m just temporarily avoiding the problem. What I do know is that E hit it right on the money when he said that it’s so easy to fall in love, but falling out is the hard part. We’re all scared of the pain of falling out of love, that sometimes we avoid falling into it. I came across a quote by Einstein that has helped me understand things a ( ... )

DANG! 1trinagirl September 25 2005, 13:03:28 UTC

Geez guy! With a profoundly insightful comment like that.......you can be the club's official "intelligence" and "advisory committee"!!!!
Great comment.........and you know......so true. I have a BAD habit of throwing myself into someone.....and ignoring my own wishes and desires. To be a bit "selfish" can be healthy for someone who is a CONSTANT giver. And, it is definitely something in which I should be VERY aware.

Thanks for the new thought process and new approach to contemplate!! Have a great weekend!!!

Re: DANG! anonymous September 25 2005, 22:51:40 UTC

Trina, the right partner will honor you and your “bad” habit. He’ll make it a point to know your wishes and desires and do his best to fulfill them, because it gives him pleasure to make you happy.

My admittedly idealistic thought for the day. ;-)

Nick
Nick8004@aol.com

I'm amazed! anonymous October 19 2005, 02:43:23 UTC

It amazes me to learn that even the beautiful people have romantic challenges... so I ask - what is a bright, beautiful, smart, giving, unselfish, sexy, ambitious, funny and down to earth girl like you in a situation like this? I believe that we ALL must encounter romantic loss simply in order to grow and to appreciate Mr. or Mrs. Right when they do finally show up unexpectedly at our door. But isn't the real issue in being romantically challenged as simple as making bad choices? Choosing the wrong person that hinders us instead of helps us to grow? Choosing people WE want to chose and not having enough faith in God to accept the one HE chooses for us IN HIS OWN TIME? I speak from experience when I say, if you are in a relationship gone bad and you are praying for even a mustard seed of hope with him, be certain HE is the one you truly want because the RIGHT one may arrive sooner than you are ready for and the question is will you be ready? Get rid of the 'old undeserving baggage' and open your heart for the new. Open your heart ( ... )