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A Tale of Two Perspectives
EVA
Once upon a time, there was a woman I'll call Eva, who had a strong interest in military strategy. She enjoyed studying it, watching & critiquing movies with military conflict, and playing games centered around war. Anytime she found someone who shared her interest, she became animated as they discussed their favorite military leaders and ( Read more... ) -
What I Look For in a Romantic Partner
These aren't necessarily in order of importance.
1. Validation. One of my top emotional needs is validation - because in my family of origin, as the youngest child in an abusive environment, I didn't receive nearly enough. Even if I'm wrong, just saying that you can see why I think or feel the way I do is enough validation that I can then hear you ( Read more... ) -
FetLife Blacklist
Format: Username(s) and reason for blacklisting.
Note: this list is being compiled by a group of people on FetLife. None of our names or usernames are mentioned here. If you want anything added to the list, you can either comment here as a guest, or send me a PM on Fet. (If you got the link for this from Fet, you know who I am there.)
Cardsfan420
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SIGNATURE STRENGTHS
[This article is from the Betwixt app.]
Owning Your Power
In Dream VIII, we started a conversation about personal strengths - the particular skills, capabilities and desirable qualities that you possess as a person.
Strengths are, obviously, a vast and broad topic that we can only begin to cover in one dream, but we hope you'll take this thinking ( Read more... ) -
Anatomy of Trust
Trust
From the TED Talk "The Anatomy of Trust" by Brené Brown
https://youtu.be/OqB5CEkPlI4?si=hf3dkrG8-amiw3G1
B - Boundaries: with self (time, sleep, phone usage, etc.) and others (social contact, physical intimacy, touch, etc.)
R - Reliability: keeps their word ( Read more... ) -
MASTERING FEAR
And the 'Get Excited' technique
[This article is from the Betwixt app.]
Dream VI began a discussion about the feeling of fear: a universally experienced and distinctly uncomfortable emotion stimulated by the perception of threat, danger, pain or other harm.
“Perception” is a key word here because fear is a subjective experience - what terrifies one ( Read more... ) -
Poem: Path of Darkness
I see you
treading that path
of darkness and pain.
I hear your cries
of helplessness and rage
wimpers of fear
and loneliness.
You are not alone.
There
in the blackness ahead
a dim glow, a flickering candle
held by another traveler
walking this path.
The way out
is still hidden
around twists and turns.
There are still obstacles
that trip your feet
and hidden traps
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A Letter to Patients With Chronic Disease
(Originally published entirely from the blog site called Musing From A Distractible Mind, which no longer exists. The site had over 400 comments.)
Dear Patients:
You have it very hard, much harder than most people understand. Having sat for 16 years listening to the stories, seeing the tiredness in your eyes, hearing you try to describe the ( Read more... ) -
Feelings on Femininity, by ahealthyskeleton
"This is a man’s world
But it wouldn’t be nothing
Nothing, without a woman or a girl”
-James Brown
YouTube’s algorithm thinks it knows me.
I might have been searching for hair styling tutorials or skincare tips, but let’s get this straight, I don’t need instructions on how to be more feminine. I’m plenty feminine, and I have nothing to prove.
I must have ( Read more... ) -
You Got Your Monogamy In My Poly, Or: My Awful Corrosion
(Shared with permission by TheFerrett.)
One of the reasons monogamy is so damned pervasive is that you can win at monogamy. Every relationship in a monogamous setting has the goal baked right in: Date. Get engaged. Move in together. Marry. Don't cheat. Die.
...aaaaand you've won at monogamy! Collect your prize from the funeral director in the form of ( Read more... )