Confusion/Jealousy

[4new_beginnings]

So my husband is friends with this woman at work - ok no biggie. I've got guy friends at work. My issue is this, she flirts with him, texts him a few times a day and a lot of times has issues with her own husband. I trust my husband completely. I know nothing would ever happen, but he knows I'm not comfortable with her. I don't know if I'm over

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[prism_pet]

I'm in a similar place. He is still friends with a girl, V, who was a source of us not being together for a while. They actually had a sexual friendship before we got together.

Anyway, he texts her still and she flirts with him, tells him that she wants to see him naked, etc. he doesn't encourage her flirting. He babysits her daughter and stays over at her apt in order to do so. V isn't there, she works overnight.

First, is trust. You got that. So good!
Second, is breathing. When it starts to hurt, take a deep breath and calm down. Calming down keeps you from....
Third, don't over think. Don't let your imagination run with it. He loves you. He is your husband. He is a nice man, so is kind to a girl at work. She is paying you a compliment by flirting with him (this thought is better than a negative one). He cements your love for each other by not being swayed by her. It will be ok.
Fourth, trust and believe. That's my mantra, and I say it until I'm calm again and steady and thinking clearly.

Jealousy is hard to deal with. Well, ok we

[4new_beginnings]

Thank you...thank you so much for this.

It's hard to articulate what I want to say to this. This issue is something I've been wrestling with recently and seeing it put down like that helps.

You're right I do trust him...and I DO over think. A lot. So thank you Samm. This helps, more than you may know.

I wish you luck with your own jealousy issues and remember your own advice when it gets too bad.