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[4tearsyoucry]

Well, they have found a pre-adoptive home for the little 4 year old.  He has only been living in my home for 3 weeks, was in foster care 1 1/2 years before that, than in a pre-adoptive home for 3 weeks but it didn't work out so that is when he came here.

His worker is picking him up on Thursday, and it should be a permenent move.  I asked the

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[fostermombecky]

I don't have any good advice for you, but I just wanted to give you a little moral support. I think I would tell him that his SW was coming to talk to him about his forever family and just make it seem like a really really good thing.

Hugs to you

[4tearsyoucry]

Thanks. That is kinda what I told him, but I know he didn't understand. I wish the worker had handled it differently and come to speak with him ahead of time. He ended up talking to the little guy as he was putting him in the carseat. But when I said goodbye, the little guy said "I'll be back later", so I know he didn't understand what I or the SW had told him.

I hope and pray he is doing ok.

[katie8471]

I sure hope for his sake THIS preadoptive placement works out. I would wait a bit before telling him. especially knowing that DHS doesnt always keep its word and you could tell him thinking he will go on Thursday but then something changes and he doesnt go till next week then you have to deal with the fall out and he has to stress about when he is going where he is going why he is going. you should wait till like Thursday morning(if they are still coming) and again I say oh gosh I hope this placement is permanent for the kid! Was he in the same foster home his whole 1 and half years before the other preplacement? I so hate to hear about kids being shuffled to and fro. its no wonder we have attachment problems and kids with issues!

[katie8471]

but you are so special to care about these kids. you are so loving to each one that comes through your home. Im glad there are people like you I just wish there were more of them.

[4tearsyoucry]

He was in a home for 1 1/2 years (before that he was in another home briefly), then went to a pre-adoptive home for 3 weeks but that didn't work out for the family :( so he came here for 3 weeks.

I ended up talking to him Thursday morning and telling him SW would tell him more about the family. But I know he didn't really understand.

In his stuff I included a note to the new family. I'm hoping they will get in touch with me, and I am praying that it will work out for him this time. He really is a great little guy - he has issues, can be hyper and oppositional at times - but he is enthusiastic, energetic, curious, talkative and a lot of fun to be with.