It's very normal. The counter argument is that kids never do anything worthwhile enough to warrant privacy, but DO have a constant habit of getting into some kind of PERIL or DANGER.
I'm with you, personally. If the kid isn't going to trust his parents, it's not the place of the parents to prove them right.
Did she specifically say she does it without his knowledge? It might be an open/agreed thing, in which case her son would do what most people would do and delete any incriminating messages.
I think you're making too much of it, personally. I think parents need to make sure their kids are safe at school, and given that the majority of school-aged children don't talk to their parents about such things, there aren't too many alternatives.
Seriously though, leaving incriminating messages on your phone is seriously poor judgement. Know how many of those get lost or stolen per day?
As for just the general 'invading my privacy' deal, never understood that. People need to lighten the fuck up, I think. Especially if it's only their mother.
First of all, there's right and wrong, and then there's "this is a bad idea". I would feel i'd been wronged if my parents did it to me, but I respect thats a personal feeling, I'm putting this forward in the bad idea category
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I think that's it, it depends largely on the kid and the parent. Your situation was almost the exact opposite to mine, so I personally see nothing bad in a parent reading emails/sms. I never sent/received anything that I wouldn't have wanted my mum to see, and even if I did and she saw them, she's not the holier-than-thou lecturing type. And 'no using your computer' would never have worked. :P
I think your example speaks more for the people involved. Maybe it's just me, but I don't consider an email or sms to be the right vehicle for spreading news of STIs. But whatever.
It was horrible, it was wrong.. but they found out she had a 40 year old stalker who found her over Runescape. He talked about her life, about her schedule.. he had her phone number. He talked about friends that had just had knee replacement surgery. How good they'd be as a couple if he was younger.
She's 13.
Just wanted a friend. Didn't consider it suspicious. It freaks me the FUCK out.
I never really know what to say. But I guess when I've got young, pretty, silly sisters.. it's hard. I trust them, but I don't trust other people. I'd never read their shit, but I'm glad my dad did.
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Kid should put a password on his phone, like I did, to stop a certain Belinda from calling me a homo. :P
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I'm with you, personally. If the kid isn't going to trust his parents, it's not the place of the parents to prove them right.
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I think you're making too much of it, personally. I think parents need to make sure their kids are safe at school, and given that the majority of school-aged children don't talk to their parents about such things, there aren't too many alternatives.
Seriously though, leaving incriminating messages on your phone is seriously poor judgement. Know how many of those get lost or stolen per day?
As for just the general 'invading my privacy' deal, never understood that. People need to lighten the fuck up, I think. Especially if it's only their mother.
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I think your example speaks more for the people involved. Maybe it's just me, but I don't consider an email or sms to be the right vehicle for spreading news of STIs. But whatever.
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It was horrible, it was wrong.. but they found out she had a 40 year old stalker who found her over Runescape. He talked about her life, about her schedule.. he had her phone number. He talked about friends that had just had knee replacement surgery. How good they'd be as a couple if he was younger.
She's 13.
Just wanted a friend. Didn't consider it suspicious. It freaks me the FUCK out.
I never really know what to say. But I guess when I've got young, pretty, silly sisters.. it's hard. I trust them, but I don't trust other people. I'd never read their shit, but I'm glad my dad did.
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