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[_ilovecorn]

You know that episode where Carrie goes to therapy because she's obsessing about Big? Then she has a "breakthrough" after she sleeps with Bon Jovi's character and he says that he loses interest in people after he sleeps with them and she finally gets that she picks the wrong men? WELLLLLLLL I had a breakthrough just this moment. As I was

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[xsuicide_glamx]

I used to pick "unavailable" people also. For a long, long time I only liked people who didn't really feel the same way (just wanted sex), or where impossible to be with (distance,girlfriend, ect). It's fucked up but when you think about it there are a ton of reasons behind it. It can be because you feel you need to earn love, a challenge. That it's not real unless all those tears have gone into it. Also, its feels "safe" sticking to what you know, going through the same things over and over. To quote Nirvana... the comfort in being sad. Also, maybe it's fear of intimacy, because deep down you know it won't work with these people, and that cam feel "safe" in a way.
HELL, I am STILL that way sometimes.
Marcus had a girlfriend when we first started "hanging out".
Glynn lived in England and I liked him A LOT back in the day.
Chris just wanted to fuck me and I wouldn't/couldn't accept that.

I could go on and on...
I don't know if that came out right, but hopefully it makes sense to you.

[_ilovecorn]

ok I've known for awhile that I tend like to like people I can't have. Everything you've just said makes complete sense and I get it. And yes it's fucking fucked up.

But that's not really the "whats going on?!" part of this. HOW the hell do get a crush on somebody then find out they have a kid? HOW? HOOOOOOOOOOOW? God I need to talk to you cause I'm confused. I don't see how this can be some subconscious thing like I want to be a mommy cause I NEVER knew. OK. JUST WHAT THE HELL?

[xsuicide_glamx]

Its just a weird coincidence. Don't read too much into it, you'll drive yourself nuts if you do. You COULDN'T have known, and therefore it is just a random series of events that have led you to like people who happen to have children.

OR, you could look at it this way, if you feel you NEED an explanation. People's personalitites change when they have kids. They become more caring and protective of people. Men begin to think of themselves as providers, with obligations that must be met. They become mature and responsible. And maybe it is THOSE QUALITIES, the qualities of a father, that you are attracted to. What's NOT to like about a guy who has his shit together? It's a nice change from some of the drug addicted, unemployed, immature people you/I/all of us have "hung out" with in the past.

[unknownkitten]

If it makes you feel any better I tend to only go for gay guys... cuz that would work.

[_ilovecorn]

you and mj should start a club.