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these letters to Dear Margo gave me an interesting angle on something I've been mulling over lately. I've found that my husband and I often have very different interpretations of the same situation, not just in our own relationships, but also in our interactions as a couple with other people (I'm specifically thinking of in-laws). It's
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And if I were Margo, I'd tell him to dump her. She's lying to him about calling her ex!
But, yeah, I see your point. :) It'd be interesting, though I bet in the venue of Livejournal, it'd just be drama-tastic. (It DID happen once that I know of, actually... Regarding a bachelor party, if I remember correctly.)
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I remember reading that two sided argument...I think both sides were equally nuts!
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And unfortunately, alot of the men that show up in here to offer their perspectives act kinda jerky. :(
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I can't count the number of things in my life that I've done, which I swore I'd *never* do. Not, you know, murder and mayhem. But a lot of little things, and even a couple of big things. You do what you feel is best in the middle of a situation, even if it contradicts prior belief.
I think you're right - people who say, "I'd never do X," or "I'd leave him in a heartbeat" aren't necessarily trying to be judgmental and bitchy. They really do believe that is how they'd act in that situation. And maybe they're even right, sometimes. But unless they've been there, they don't really know.
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In this case, the woman asking for advice didn't mention the other pieces of information because she may have either:
1) Thought for some reason it was irrelevant or
2) Wanted to project a particular scenario she knew would get the reaction she wanted
IMHO, communities/forums/friends/etc are not here to solve the actual problem--they are here to help solve a problem as presented by the original poster. When people ask for advice, I always ask a lot of questions because I need more information than the initial information provided. Meh, sometimes ( ... )
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When my DH and I are in a discussion- we've learned to be very clear and tell the other how we see the situation. Early on there was some trouble brewing, but it got soothed when we realized how differently we saw the situation. We're not perfect about it- but we both really try.
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