Comments | _ms_anonymous: To Pass Time

_ms_anonymous

To Pass Time

Oct 27, 2005 09:36

So my husband has been sleeping on the couch for about six weeks. This is due to a bad back and a horrible tooth problem (he'd sleep with his mouth on a heating pad). He had to wait over a month for an appointment with an oral surgeon. Finally, he got several teeth cut out last week and I thought things might go back to normal.

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strong_survive October 27 2005, 15:51:24 UTC

I feel your husband's pain, especially with the teeth! I was in horrible horrible pain! I was glad for all of it to be over. I still have to go have my teeth pulled out. I am scared! *hugs* I hope you two are doing much better by the time I leave this comment. A new mattress would probably benefit him, plus some contouring pillows! Good luck!

strong_survive October 27 2005, 17:23:59 UTC

Thanks! I hope your mouth is starting to feel better.

_ms_anonymous October 27 2005, 17:24:18 UTC

oops...that was me!

missingvalue October 27 2005, 17:07:49 UTC

Don't feel guilty! It certainly makes sense why you felt the way you did. But oh, I feel his pain too. We need a new mattress too. The only reason why I don't have constant back pain myself is because I obsessively work out my back muscles everyday. Would he be willing to see a chiropracter?

_ms_anonymous October 27 2005, 17:23:36 UTC

He should see a chiropracter. That's a good idea. Right now he gets pills from his regular doctor, but they don't really fix the problem, they just mask it. I went to a chiropracter for a few months after a car accident and so I swear by them!!

rose_bell_jar October 27 2005, 18:00:26 UTC

I wouldn't feel too guilty...no offense, I have never heard about a couch being better for someone's back than a bed.

_ms_anonymous October 27 2005, 19:45:26 UTC

Haha. I don't. It really is in this case because our couch is firm and our bed is mega-soft. Sometimes, he'll put a big blanket on the floor and sleep there for the extra support.

lloyderer October 27 2005, 19:18:00 UTC

Afflicted and PS2 addicted! Back and dental problems are tough on their own, but the combination sounds excruciating. Speaking from experience of the man angle of sleeping on the couch, I recommend you don't harass him into bed. Act like you couldn't care less if moves out to the couch permanently and he'll be back.

Or, if that doesn't work, move the PS2 into the bedroom.

The other two cents I want to throw in is: a lot of (lower) back trouble is stress-related, pure and simple. People tense that area unconsciously and strain the muscles.

_ms_anonymous October 27 2005, 19:47:20 UTC

Hmmm good idea about ignoring it. Actually, although I miss him, it is rather nice not waking up to his snoring several times a night, lol! My husband has stress but he also has a prior back injury and has to lift things at work, so I think it's a combination of everything that's hurting him right now. Thanks for the male perspective :)

coachlover October 27 2005, 20:44:27 UTC

This post hits so close to home. There are times when my hubby doesn't sleep with me and my mind wanders...."why doesn't he want to sleep with me"..."does he still love me"..."do i stink or something"..but I'm not the type to play the silent role...I always have to let him know how I'm feeling (whether it helps or not).

I wish I could be more "controlled" about my feelings.

_ms_anonymous October 27 2005, 20:52:38 UTC

I don't think I'm necessarily "controlled." It just takes a lot to bother me, so I'll let things slide off for a long time, but then when they DO bother me, it's really bad. That can be a good quality, and a bad one! I have to work at telling people how I am feeling - that's a good quality I think.