fishbowl

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what an intense day. the fishbowl was pretty dense and a lot of shit was said and thank god it was out there.

anyhoo, i've said this already but thank you James. for being an awesome friend, down to earth, understanding and thank you sooo much for being trustworthy and helping me deal with my SHIT. Especially today, our conversation was very

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[straberrikyss]

intense barely covers it linh. it was f***ing intense. it sounds like you are doing alright but if not i hope you will be soon. and im also glad all that shit was put out there. just thought id tell ya that.

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thank you sam so much for your comment and thank you so much for what you said today, a lot of what you said really hit home. and i'm pretty sure it was you who said this "i hate it when guys tell me they have feelings for me then ignore me." i think that is so true, it's such a good point, it's like guys do it piss us off or some shit... but underneath it all... it's probably fear and insecurity. this isnt a justification for their behavior it just makes sense doesnt it, in a logical sort of way since men are socialized into being "manly" and as a result become insecure.i dont know, do you have anything to say.

[the_kilgore]

oddly enough, as emotionally difficult as it was, i agree that it was good. i don't know about you but i'm glad i can feel comfortable throwing some of the old me out and welcoming the new. but i really don't see myself at least as flirtatious or trying to get into a relationship just for the sake of doing so, and i am confused why anyone would go up to a woman in the street and try to "hit on her." one time a guy stalked me in his car, in my neighborhood and when he caught up to me i was so disillusioned by that experience that the moment i got home i got the biggest knife in the house and held onto it until my mother came home...

i can't even imagine what it must be like having to deal with that each day, but it scared me enough to get some minute idea.

I'm really interested in listening to people's experiences, including yours Linh, and at some point i'd really like to talk.

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thank you paul for trying to understand and welcoming the change, so many men become defensive and try to justify their behavior but you actuallytry to understand and that's profound, thank you.

you'll try to get it but you'll only understand a part of it, guys dont have to look behind them when they walk to their cars at night, we have to make sure our shoes can hold out in case we have to run, we have to check our backseats and we have to constantly look behind us and walk as lightly as possible so we can hear everything around us. and that's only part of it...

i really hope we get to talk too, im really looking forward to it.

[mistah_shnail]

linh, you're awesome.

i dont know what else to say.