Comments | absolutefreak: On the good side! For once... :P

absolutefreak

On the good side! For once... :P

Aug 27, 2008 03:55

Well... Things are going great... I mean just since I've changed my attitude... everything is going super wonderful with Dave and I. He's spending more time with me now... I'm not emotional. I talk to him when I have a problem. I treat him as if it was the last day I was going to see him. I'm nice and not mean. Even when he was drunk and being mean ( Read more... )

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bob_rogue August 28 2008, 17:23:19 UTC

It seems unfair that he can do whatever he wants and you are putting up with it, but it's better that your happier.

absolutefreak August 28 2008, 23:24:59 UTC

Those are the actions of an addict. And he is one. He will be one for the rest of his life. Don't judge something you have no clue about. Even I don't have a clue about addiction. I'm not an alcoholic and I'm not an addict. Both things run in my family... and I'm not either one. I try and be as accepting as possible. Just because I don't understand what he's going through. I'm his wife. I did not say I do to say I don't. Most people treat marriage that way.. and use divorce as one of the easy ways out. I AM NOT going to be one of them. My husband and my child are the most treasured things in my life and I'm going to be damned if I let either go without a fight. You're right that it isn't fair. But I'm going to allanon meetings and they help. Help me cope with the things I can't change. I've been much happier since. But things will not change without work. Most people want things to change over night... and they will not and won't ever. That's a fantasy. I knew what my husband was way before we ever got married. But I love him... and ( ... )

bob_rogue August 29 2008, 03:19:16 UTC

I meant no offence and apologize if what i said was taken that way, it's really good that you are able to take care of him, and your baby and i'm happy that your trying so hard to make things work and proud of you for it.

absolutefreak August 29 2008, 03:35:20 UTC

I'm sorry. I got defensive. I'm just trying very hard and it's sort of stressful... He's trying as well. He has to deal with all of his problems all at once. He can't mask them anymore with drugs and alcohol. I love him very much. Thank you too. What you said brought tears to my eyes. I needed some encouragement.