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abbylinn in abusesurvivor

Just wondering...

Dec 20, 2003 02:00

I'm technically not a survivor; I haven't gotten out of the situation yet. But I deal with verbal and emotional abuse from my mother, who calls me names and profanity everyday. I'm 17. But how do you deal with people who don't take your claims seriously ( Read more... )

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I can relate social_reject89 March 25 2004, 15:45:38 UTC

my mom does the same and its killing me in the inside
she used to be physically abusive back when i was younger but now she doesnt do it as much, but the insults can
be just as bad.
I'm starting to fight back and i'm currently working up the courage to talk to a counselor or someone about it I think it would be good if you tried that too.

histrionicalme April 8 2004, 20:20:45 UTC

hi,
i'm not in this community yet, but i might join.
i've dealt with 4 abusers in my life, and if i were you, i would go to your most trusted teacher at school or a close adult. but preferably at school, because if a report is filed, they legally have to check up on it.
good luck, and if you wish to talk mroe, my name is Madeline and my AIM screen name is deathsangel55

frozencharlotte April 11 2004, 15:46:18 UTC

My mom did the exact same thing to me. Move out as soon as it is possible for you to get to a safe place and go see a counselor. The longer you stay the more intense her abuse becomes and the more likely you are to believe the lies she tells you about yourself.

chaosdancer April 22 2004, 07:34:45 UTC

I'm 41 now, and my mom has done the same to me all my life. The only thing I could do that worked was break off contact with her. She's never understood how hurtful she could be...to her, the whole world is against her and she doesn't understand why, doesn't understand that it's her words that make other people not want to be around her. That's no excuse. If she had any interest in understanding, she'd have tried to find out by now what she was doing wrong. But she likes being the victim, even though she's the biggest bully I've ever met ( ... )

I know what it feels like... fallen_angel_04 May 4 2004, 00:26:25 UTC

I know exactly what it feels like to be verbally and emotionally abused by a parent. My mom has been doing it since I was 14, and I'm now turning 19. It goes from the smallest thing of being called a bitch, to being told I deserve to die...you aren't alone. I've also been sexually and physically abused as well...it's ok to cry...and it's ok to feel alone. But you aren't. Always remember that. :)

Re: I know what it feels like... skitz0_kitty July 24 2004, 05:16:31 UTC

((You're icon speaks too much truth.))

I'm 14. My dad has been doing that all my life. Yelling and screaming profanities, etc. Mom doesn't seem to think it means anything because she says he doesn't really mean it and to just "brush it off." That doesn't work. He yells about everything. I've cracked. My friends hate him almost as much as I do after spending 15 minutes with him. I can't take it anymore. Yes, sexual abuse too. Several times. I still haven't gotten over it. I was little, and felt tricked into doing things. :/ I'm surprised I can actually type this.

Do you have any advice, seeing as you're not only 5 years older, but dealt with these things?

Re: I know what it feels like... fallen_angel_04 July 24 2004, 15:41:29 UTC

Advice...hmm...you've come to the right person! That's what I'm most good at is giving advice. Well, first of all, DON'T HARM YOURSELF AT ALL. I use cutting and other forms of harming myself as a way to deal...I'm getting better with that, but I still do it...please don't start that...if you already have resorted to it, stop asap. Not only are you hurting yourself, but you are also hurting those around you that care for you. Friends, other family, etc. Also, please know that anything that is said to you or done to you, is not your fault. It is never under any circumstance your fault. I have a hard time believing half the time that it isn't my fault, but deep down inside I know it isn't. Another thing I learned, is pray to God. Ask him for strength and ask him to help you through this. He will, and he is always there. If you aren't religious, then skip that...lol...but yea...you aren't alone hun. Being 14 and getting abused can be pretty rough, specially with the stresses of school and such. I was kicked out of school because of ( ... )