A letter to my abusers

[smtrebs]

This is to all three of you

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[itsyourright]

http://www.ilanawrites.com/id7.html - That's my poetry page, Its got a poem called "In your defense"

I thought it sounded similar to what your going through.

You shouldn't suffer in silence. The legal system never does justice for the crimes that have been committed. They are stupid and don't get it. Jail, probahtion, whatever, its not enough. It'll never be enough. Its your right to hate them, to dispise them, to wish death upon them. But don't let it inflict your life.

You never deserved any of this. But don't walk away with it without being a stronger person, and learning from their mistakes.

You don't have to repeat their crimes. I've been mulling this over in my head for years. Mostly because my abuser was my father, thinking what if its in my blood to do this?

But you know what? Abuse is a choice.

Abuser's choose to abuse. You don't have to.Remember that. Its what keeps my going everyday. Its your choice, the only right you may have.

In Your defense

[smtrebs]

Hi, thanks for the link. I don't see it as a choice as to whether to abuse, really. The thought of abusing my own children has never even occured to me!..but then I guess some people are just born evil :)
Thanks for the support, I appreciate it.

[realityinred]

"Itsyourright" In my opinion (and im nto sayign my opinion is right) you come across to be as a very ignorant person. To hate them will not help them, it will only make matters worse. Through understanding and forgiveness may you help future victims never become victims at all. Hatred will only cause them to become more ugly and yourself to become as ugly as them.

[cindyx3mindy]

i feel your pain im going 2 start opening up 2 mii counceler 2 thx!!

[smtrebs]

Good, If I can help someone else by detailing my thoughts, I am glad. It isn't easy, but with good support, it can be helpful talking about it. Good luck.

[evilangel_lib]

Very powerful letter. <3

[realityinred]

I think you should love your abusers...not for what they are nor what they have done, but what they have the potential to be. Enlightened, perhaps remoursefull. Unhappiness will solve nothing, nor will money or legal matters. Only love and understanding. I think u have a well right to ask "why" if not for you to hear the answer, but for them to think "why"... then perhaps they'll realize that enevitably no one got anything worthwhile out of the act, especially not you. If the abused learn to love from being taught what hatred feels like, i think it was all worth it in the end :)

[smtrebs]

unfortunately for me I have to love at least 1 of them, due to the fact that it is a very close family member, the other two I don't have to...but believe me just because I have to Love them doesn't mean I have to like them.

i know how you feel

[9276]

i was raped by my uncle. before he did it he bought me my favorate toy( i was three or four) we were driving and then he just did it, i dident know any better. but the memories were put out of my mind untill i was ten and i started remembering things again. as if that werent enough my mother beat me until i was 10. she was a young mother. she would throw me on the floor and choke me with her feet, pick me up by my hair other stuff like that but i mean people expect you to be a bad person or something if somebody does that to you, but the truth is we're all just the same but the ones that it happened to have to find ways to deal with there problems. for the longest time i thought i was a bad person because my uncle did that to me but now i know that it was all him. in a way i actually pity him because he had to do that to me and god knows how ever many other girls just to feel secure.

Re: i know how you feel

[smtrebs]

Some sick people in this world seem to think children are born to satisfy their own perversions! they abuse the innocent trust that children put into them.