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[adelaide129]

tonight my mother told me that she didn't help me when i was sexually abused as a child because no one helped her when she was sexually abused as a child. "why should you have the priviledge?" were her exact words

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[neverendingsoda]

You probably know this, but she probably knows exactly how much wrong she did to you, feels terrible for it, and is trying to rationalize it to mitigate her own guilt. I know she's a wingnut and a lousy person, but I can't find it in my head to believe that she really thinks that. One thing I'm learning more and more as an adult is that the truth really doesn't matter to people like it ought to.

No one would blame you if you never spoke to her again, though. Do what is best for you and don't feel obliged just because you share DNA.

I'm always suggesting books, but I reccommend Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl. People can find meaning in the most painful and hopeless of circumstances...

[twitch25]

There are no words for how tragic this whole experience has been for you, and words like "I'm sorry" don't even begin to cover it. There is so much evil and ignorance in this world that it sometimes make life too hard to bear, it causes too much pain and sorrow to see the light side. But there IS a light side.

You are beautiful. You are a giving, strong, and independently living a life you choose, not relying on your pain to give up on what this life has still yet to provide for you, for better or worse. The greatest courage any person can have, in my opinion, is to simply get out of bed in the morning and face whatever the world has to throw at you. You are a remarkable woman and you deserve exceedingly better treatment than you have received. I'm sorry. I'm so very very sorry that this has happened to you, and if you ever need someone to talk to I know I probably wouldn't be your first choice, but I'd be there for you if you needed me.