Okay, there are several components to this. First off, depending on how many partners you have, it may be worth noting that sometimes a position that is uncomfortable with one guy is fine with a different one. Just as sometimes a position that feels really good with one guy isn't that great with another one. Because while your anatomy is mostly the same from guy to guy (it does change over time), the guy's anatomy also factors into which positions will feel good and which won't. So, it's usually good to give a few different positions a try with a new partner, to see whether what you like holds with a new partner, but that's just for physical reasons, not psychological ones. (Also, as you age or if you ever have a child, which will very much change your shape, you may want to do some re-exploring for similar reasons
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There are a LOT of position possibilities, and I don't see anything wrong with a person not wanting to do one of them. Being on the bottom doesn't make you a lazy lover unless you just lay there like a lifeless lump. Frankly, I also dislike being on top for a laundry list of reasons. I've never much cared for it, and I'm yet to find a man who considers it a deal-breaker. In fact, my husband is utterly concerned with my lack of interest in being on top. I cannot express how very much it's a non-issue for us.
I recommend some open communication with your partner sooner than later. It's always good for both partners to have a clear understanding of each others wants and needs, expectations and desires.
If you do want to be on top and are only concerned because you feel unsexy, you could always wear a shirt or some lingerie. You could also start out on top and switch to being on bottom or vice versa. Just experiment with what feels good for you.
Like someone else stated, it may have been uncomfortable for you simply because of the partner you were with. Having been with different sized males myself, what's uncomfortable with one guy might feel amazing with another.
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I recommend some open communication with your partner sooner than later. It's always good for both partners to have a clear understanding of each others wants and needs, expectations and desires.
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Like someone else stated, it may have been uncomfortable for you simply because of the partner you were with. Having been with different sized males myself, what's uncomfortable with one guy might feel amazing with another.
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