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thegirlcandance in advice_source

Friends with a recent ex?

Jan 29, 2008 21:07

So as I posted earlier, my boyfriend broke up with me right when we got back to school after winter break. I felt things were more distant lately, but didn't at all expect him to break up with me. I was devastated for quite a few days -- and I'm still in an emotional wave (being fine and then going into a depression/numbness or crying myself to ( Read more... )

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hoodwink January 30 2008, 04:59:24 UTC

I think you both need some space. Fresh break-ups usually don't lead to immediate friendships. You both need some down time where you can heal and think for yourself without worrying about the other person and if you'll get back together or not.

I'm not saying cut all ties forever. but take a couple months to get your head back on straight. Take the time you need to heal, spend time with friends and with yourself. Learn to love the other parts of your life again. Don't wait around for this guy to come to his senses...

A lot of people are still trying to figure out who they are in college and their early 20s, so I think it's probably pretty normal. Give him time. and in time you may find that he's not the one for you anyway. but don't rush into anything new either.

Good Luck. Don't email, text or call him or see him in person if you can help it for awhile. If he questions it, tell him you need space.

thegirlcandance January 30 2008, 05:04:26 UTC

Well, the problem with the situation is that we are all friends with the same people -- it's like we all go to someplace to hang out and are likely to run into each other.

Then on top of that we both signed up for a study abroad trip to go to Russia over spring break and we take the class together every week -- so it's really hard to avoid each other.

hoodwink January 30 2008, 05:09:43 UTC

Well that doesn't mean you have to be best buds and talk every time you're in the same situation. You can be at the same event and be civil. You can keep busy and you don't have to sit next to him in class or listen to his woes if you don't want too. Just pretend he's another student that you don't talk too. It won't be easy but I think if you do anything else, you'll just drag things out.