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aetrix9

The Next 10 Years

Aug 24, 2007 21:53

For women out there: Never EVER read Peggy Ortenstein's Flux. Just don't ( Read more... )

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Ok... annan_dum August 25 2007, 03:40:10 UTC

A) You didn't talk about that BEFORE you got married!?!!?

B) Orientation! The Journey Begins!!! WHOOO!!!!!

and, C) garden is most important. Definitely.

Re: Ok... aetrix9 August 25 2007, 21:11:33 UTC

We _did_ talk about it before we were married, but it's definitely an ongoing conversation. The problem with deciding _not_ to have kids _right now_ means we get stuck in a continuous conversation of "Now?" "no." "If not now, when?"

asthran August 27 2007, 15:21:54 UTC

You could live in a yurt and forgo pluming and technology right here if you wanted to. I can recommend an excellent yurt builder.

aetrix9 August 27 2007, 20:33:21 UTC

Ooh... you know a yurt builder?

When miagisbambubike's father passed away, he inherited a piece of land with a pond in New York somewhere. A yurt up there might be really wonderful, actually.

asthran August 28 2007, 05:27:32 UTC

One of the guys on the circuit has been living in a yurt for over a decade. Two Scarboroughs ago he had a yurt-building class, where for cost of materials he taught six or so people how to build their own, so now there are lots of them about.

Sounds like it would be a lovely spot. Should I get you in touch?

From a father and husband. therogon September 3 2007, 18:17:36 UTC

To watch a woman, or any person actually, with an individual identity tie themselves into a relationship where inevitably the lines between people become blurred is difficult. The free being who you are suddenly becomes tied down to someone else's wants and needs, inevitably resulting in the love/hate cycle that many close relationships face. People weren't meant to be so close and dependent of each other and yet, they do all the time. It is the central mystery of my human experience. Pregnacy and motherhood is another level of that altogether. It is consummate, binding, and many times too close, possibly lethal to a woman's sense of self. But because in any other relationship there lies the possibility of freedom, the most painful thing I have seen is a woman who realises there is no turning away from the needs of a child. It adds new meaning to "responsibility." The woman, meaning my wife, had always planned on having children. Planning is short of preparation for an experience so personal as childbearing, and I think no matter how ( ... )