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Jun 05, 2008 05:06

Considering this is such an open community to abortion I don't want to say anything to offend anyone. I myself have had an abortion, but I still haven't recovered. The father of the child moved away and refuses to speak to me, I drink six out of seven nights a week, and I want to use everyone around me as a punching bag. I really need someone ( Read more... )

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reignst0rm June 10 2008, 01:29:23 UTC

I know how you feel. I had my abortion in 1994 and still think about it virtually every day. I often have what-if moments about the dad, even though he's been out of my life literally since the day I had it done. I find myself daydreaming about what they'd be like (the clinic told me I was having twins) and I get really bad around the anniversary of when I had it.
I have to say, unfortunately for me, time hasn't made it better, but I'm in therapy trying to work through the guilt and bad feelings I have towards myself about my decision.
I don't know if this was the kind of reply you were looking for. If it isn't, I apologize.

fataldefect June 10 2008, 02:16:02 UTC

No... I needed any reply that let me know I'm not alone... When sitting in the clinic the video that I watched stated that the only people who would grieve are the ones that actually wanted the child. I bawled. The the lady asked me if anyone was pushing me into the decision. I lied and said yes. All I want is to take it back. I know that neither way would have resulted in a happy ending. I just wonder if he feels the same pain that I do... I lost a piece of myself... Every day I pray to be able to go back. And then I drink because I can't... Time doesn't heal... it only numbs... But even that isn't happening for me. I send him messages that he reads but wont respond to. It kills me. I need him more that he realizes. I just sound like a crazy bitch. I know I should get over it but I can't. I CANT. I just don't know how much longer I can go like this without completely losing it.

fataldefect June 10 2008, 02:16:46 UTC

I lied and said NO*. Sorry.. Im drunk..

reignst0rm June 10 2008, 02:23:26 UTC

You do NOT sound like a crazy bitch. Please don't think that.

kurisuu June 10 2008, 04:14:54 UTC

I felt a ton of regret after mine, admittedly. I know it's definitely common enough that the clinic I went to gave a free counseling session after the procedure. I bounced around on so many medications after mine that it's hard for me to really say how long it took me to recover. I still think about it from time to time, but I hold solace in knowing that I wasn't ready and I'm much better off now because of the choices I made ( ... )

firebird72 June 10 2008, 04:17:05 UTC

Mine was 14 months ago and I still regret is every day. Some days are easier than others, but it's always in the back of my mind. If you want to talk anytime, I'm azangel0220 on yahoo and gmail. *hugs*

firebird72 June 10 2008, 04:17:32 UTC

mine*

damhnade June 10 2008, 13:16:06 UTC

I had mine 4 years ago. I still think about it nearly every day. Some days I'm sad, somedays I'm not. I know I made the right choice and it was what I wanted, but that doesn't mean I don't feel guilty sometimes. I wouldn't even say "guilty" but I can't find the right words. I guess I just mourn the loss, but don't see it as my "fault" and therefore don't feel guilty. That sounds really awful but that's not how I mean.

womanstrength June 24 2008, 04:04:31 UTC

I too have had to deal with many pain in this area I still cry at night. All I ever wanted was a little one but the guy I was with was just wrong for me and it didnt work out.. I thought it was me not being safe but turned out my pill didnt work with my body and it happend with another guy . It is the worst THING to feel and its sad . I'm sure your all wonderful woman who mean well. If anyone tells u you were wrong its not there lives!!!!!!!!!! being a single mom is not easy and would put in into more of a depression I'm sure. Babies are amazing but sometimes its not your time to be blessed. MEN don't have to deal with this pain like we do and it sucks. BUT BE STRONG WOMAN /GIRLS...... you will feel better one day. Just take this as your baby is watching over you and wanting a better life for you . Why bring a baby into this world if it will be surronded by unhappy people and struggling from pay check to pay check. ABORTION IS NOT BIRTH CONTROL but in some cases it can save the child's life and yours. ANYONE who wants to add me as a ( ... )