Yesterday I was talking about what a great feminist my mum is. I mean, the only reason I took Intro to Women's Studies as an elective first year is because she kept calling me every day and pleading with me
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No way! That would be bad news. Whenever she asks "so why aren't you dating soandso" and they're always totally obviously innappropriate for me for many reasons. Such as being gay. Or liking to play golf. Or being a hippie :(
my mother did that, too. "phds aren't for females." i think most parents (mums & dads alike) who feel this way about their daughters, probably come around once they see them having success in their academic pursuits.
but, whether or not my mum comes around, she'll be happy that i'm happy, i know that.
Mmm, I get the feeling that if my mum thought I were happier with what I was studying in school maybe she wouldn't be so worried about this loneliness she thinks I feel. Maybe once I'm able to study what really interests me she won't be so concerned, or at least she'll get used to it!
You are very right. In the end, our parents really do just want us to be happy.
Very appropriate use of the strike function there, mister! Yeah, things were really insane for me before I left which disallowed pretty much any socialization options :( But when I go back, hangouts for sure! Hummus and cake and Licks and antiques and... we have many plans to attend to!
Hahaha! Oh Pam, what is it with parents thinking their children are gay? My mom (not to mention best friends, acquaintances, complete strangers, mortal enemies, etc.) was convinced for the LONGEST time that I was gay and probably still thinks so. It got to the point where any girl who I happened to find myself with at the time and met my mum would receive ridiculous amounts of praise in some sort of crass attempt to encourage a 'deficient' masculinity.
The sad reality is of course, that 95% of the population are ABSOLUTELY undatable and often find themselves thrown together because of alcohol or the rather humiliating desire simply to not be alone. Both situations (as I have come to realize first-hand) are only trouble, so it only makes sense that asexuality is the only way to go. But keep your chin up! It's often the case that things turn 'round at exactly the point they seem least likely to!
I don't know what it is with parents assuming their kids are gay! I guess in my case the assumption makes some sense. My closest friends are almost always queer, I never have boyfriends, and I am a women's studies major. It would probably make more sense if being gay was my reason for not dating, but really, like you said, most people are just totally undateable and I don't like wasting my time.
So yeah, pretty much asexuality all the way. I'm not too concerned about things turning around because I appreciate all the benefits of single life. But yes, things have a way of changing at unexpected times, so I guess time will tell!
Trip has been lovely so far, and hopefully it will continue. Thank you!
I cant resist poking you in the side a little about speaking of teachers college as a last resort. People should only teach if they feel trully called to it! Plus its not easy to get in to teachers college!
Hey, that's not fair! I never said anything about last resort! My last resort would be... I don't know. Law school or something!
I want to teach anyway, I would just rather be a professor because I have a lot of issues with the public school system that I might have a hard time dealing with / working around. Not that I don't have lots of issues with post-secondary education as well, but, whatever. Basically it comes down to that I'm just not sure I can handle / want to handle doing a PhD.
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i think most parents (mums & dads alike) who feel this way about their daughters, probably come around once they see them having success in their academic pursuits.
but, whether or not my mum comes around, she'll be happy that i'm happy, i know that.
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You are very right. In the end, our parents really do just want us to be happy.
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The sad reality is of course, that 95% of the population are ABSOLUTELY undatable and often find themselves thrown together because of alcohol or the rather humiliating desire simply to not be alone. Both situations (as I have come to realize first-hand) are only trouble, so it only makes sense that asexuality is the only way to go. But keep your chin up! It's often the case that things turn 'round at exactly the point they seem least likely to!
Anyway, have a fun trip to Montreal and Halifax!
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So yeah, pretty much asexuality all the way. I'm not too concerned about things turning around because I appreciate all the benefits of single life. But yes, things have a way of changing at unexpected times, so I guess time will tell!
Trip has been lovely so far, and hopefully it will continue. Thank you!
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I want to teach anyway, I would just rather be a professor because I have a lot of issues with the public school system that I might have a hard time dealing with / working around. Not that I don't have lots of issues with post-secondary education as well, but, whatever. Basically it comes down to that I'm just not sure I can handle / want to handle doing a PhD.
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