PS - Before you ask, I actually have a sensor embedded in my cortex that lets me know when somebody acknowledges in any way, shape or form that I am, in point of fact, correct.
PPS - I totally chill my ass out in cemeteries. Actually, sort of constantly. It got so bad for a while there I was like "Yes, let's take houseguests to cemeteries! They're so neat."
I am a de facto expert on the stained glass found in the mausoleums of Forest Lawn cemetery back in Buffalo. I . . . um, I didn't mean to be.
:hugs: I could have written this myself. Grad school has changed me, and not in good ways..I too need to reflect and say to hell to others opinions to some extent. It comes down to judging yourself honestly and reminding yourself you have worth. :goes to reflect:
*huggins* It's true. If you live up to yourself, other people will tend to fall in line. I never realized how much it was missing until I noticed it and had a meltdown.
And, even though you didn't ask for my advice.... don't make the same mistake I did and blame "grad school and the world" until you really make sure it's not something inside you that broke, or shifted, and that the consequences are just now peeking out through school or discontent. I made that mistake for a year. I thought the world was off-kilter, instead I found myself just spinning the wrong way.
:nods at the wisdom: It's a very valid point. I did the reverse, actually. I spent about a year thinking it was me. Then I got a reality check and saw that my advisor can't keep his graduate students, is disiked by his advisees, and the dept stopped him from getting more. I do think a bit of it is me and how I coped with it. I need to get more of a backbone. But there's a large part that is him. :hugs:
Ah, and so it goes that everyone has things differently :( Sorry about your advisor. Mine's the reverse actually, she's awesome and I absolutely love the type of work that she's gotten into. It, for me, was more a question of the program in general not being suited for me, and me having to deal with that as a consequence, and being forced into advanced-level stuff without having the basic ground under my feet.
I now realize that it's never as bad as I've made it seem, and to be honest that I *don't know* and it's their job to *teach me*
Graves and thingsjujube_1980April 24 2007, 03:35:04 UTC
Well first off, I like cemeteries too. Kind of peaceful and puts things in perspective. In 100 years the things that seem like mountains to me now will be dust. And I like the humor too. I even have a few rubbings at home somewhere in the midst of the crap I've accumulated in 27 years
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THESE THINGS ARE VERY IMPORTANT.
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I have no problem whatsoever in admitting your correctness. Maybe I should make that sentence font PLUS NINTY BILLION so everyone can see it. ^_^
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I am a de facto expert on the stained glass found in the mausoleums of Forest Lawn cemetery back in Buffalo. I . . . um, I didn't mean to be.
PPPS - SO RIGHT IT HURTS, BABY. IT HURTS SO GOOD.
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And, even though you didn't ask for my advice.... don't make the same mistake I did and blame "grad school and the world" until you really make sure it's not something inside you that broke, or shifted, and that the consequences are just now peeking out through school or discontent. I made that mistake for a year. I thought the world was off-kilter, instead I found myself just spinning the wrong way.
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I now realize that it's never as bad as I've made it seem, and to be honest that I *don't know* and it's their job to *teach me*
I hope things turn around for you in lab :(
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I'm glad you're feeling better.
Know what makes it more better? Random trips to Boston!
Details later.
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DETAILS NOW
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I think everyone is just lost, or in different stages of found-ness. It comes and it goes in revelations or smacks in the face.
The calling works both ways!
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