WHY ME?!?!?!?!?

[ajax727]

Ok so I know there is only one person that even reads my journal but I thought I'd still write what I have to say in here. Ok so ahile back i posted that I had slept with my roomate. That was a big deal to me beacuse its not something I do very often. So here's the story

Comments

[shavednutz]

love stinks...I am going through a situation myself. It really sucks. I have been with him 2 years next month, but we broke up 2 months ago. Long story, I may get into explaining it one day:) Hang in there kiddo!

[phoenixlancer]

This is why I keep close friends friends and not try anything more. As for myself, I have very strong feelings for my best friend, who's very happily attached. Point is that no matter how much I want that person, I really don't want to risk it all getting wierd and mess up what we've built up all this while. It's very easy for someone to just say that things won't get wierd, but deep down, who knows...

I applaud you for your bravery in making a move for what you want and what you think you guys deserve. I hope things go your way.

[andyboy]

that was really cool.

[ajax727]

Thanks

[risingtofall]

What a rough deal. You should talk to Andy, just tell him your having a hard time dealing with everything thats going on and that you just need a little time to adjust and tell him what he means to you as a friend and the value of your friendship to him. Maybe even write him a note saying that? Its not as cheesy as it sounds. If a friendship is what you want from Andy then you need to seperate your feelings. And no more sex with him! That's clearing fucking with your mind. Hang in there and best of luck.

[andyboy]

I agree with you 100%, and we have talked alot. But as for the discontinuance of the sexual proclivities.

[sheeppainter]

Dude like I just had the same experince...sort of. Its never good to take a friendship to an intimate level...or even more so a roommate. But hindsight... I try to never tell people what to do. But I will always share what my experience is and you can take it or leavve it. The truth is I have put myself in similar positions ant it always causes problems. (Why didnt I learn? I guess I am...) I am never one to judge casual sex or sex for fun. Lord knows I've done it. But what I discovered is that while it is okay sometimes, it really isn't what I want. I also discovered that in ANY situation, I need to be completely honest, if and only if it won't be harmful to someone else. And there are also times when I need to be really detached. I also always look at what I did to put myself in a situation, regardless of what anyone else did. I found my self being resentful or hurt because all the sudden, affection that came my way, was suddenly taken away and thrust at someone else. I felt alone. I felt hurt. I felt unloved. Three things that as a

[andyboy]

nice LJ tag

[ajax727]

Thank you, I appreciate the advice, and honestly i think things have worked out for the better but only time can tell.

[twisted_impulse]

Been there, done that =\ It didn't get much easier for me, I hope you fare better than I did, and still am.

[ajax727]

It did aparently