Separate bedrooms

[ajva]

Had Stef's pal Tony over today for a long lunch. I do like Tony - he's good fun. Anyway, I've just said goodnight to both of them (Stef and Tony, that is), and now face a good night's sleep. It's Stef's turn to take Charlie into his room in his Moses basket, leaving me a free hand

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[lozette]

Separate houses for me! Although, what I mean is... I'm nearly 35 and I've yet to cohabit with anyone :-)

Current squeeze & I are tentatively talking about living together in 2013, when I'll be 36 and him 41. Our own rooms will be a must - I can't see myself getting to 36 having always had a *whole house* to myself, then being happy to share space like that.

Ideally I'd live next-door to a partner, but living in a large (i.e. 3 or 4 bedroom) house between two people seems like a decent compromise.

[lozette]

(I guess it's pertinent to state that I'm monogamous, not poly!)

[thekumquat]

When I grew up, my parents generally slept separately once I was 3 or so (my dad likes 2 duvets even in summer; my mum overheats with one even in winter and needed the loo 20 times a night...), and that was considered fairly reasonable when it was a case of my dad 'retreating' to the spare room, but when we moved and they officially had their own rooms most of my friends thought that was wierd.

When Conflux and I moved in together we thought we'd sleep together at least on weekends in our two-bedroom flat, but after a month concluded that dividing the space into a bedroom each was the way to go, what with him being an insomniac and going to bed a couple hours later than me.

I suspect there's a lot of envy about being able to afford separate bedrooms.

[the_maenad]

Not having separate bedrooms put the tin hat on at least one of my past relationships. Nowadays a room of my own is a bottom-line basic requirement for me, I'm sorry, it just is.

[babysimon]

It's hard to conceive of anything other than separate homes for the foreseeable future! Only one (FSVO) partner even lives with someone.

But yes, another poly person who's always had separate bedrooms. I've been a bad sleeper for much of my life, which has been a big factor, although that seems to be improving lately. I'm starting to actively enjoy sleeping in the same bed with partners, which is lovely. I've even managed to sleep in a bed with partner + cat. Gosh. Having a big bed helps lots :)