Personal Update, ahoy!

[alizarin_nyc]

I don't want too much time to pass without updating LJ because otherwise it will just go on and on and I'll feel like it's too much to update and I won't want to do it. (Okay, good, we've got that out of the way

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[tesserae_]

*hugs*

Nothing to add but lots of moral support, if you'd like it. I've been through 2 divorces and both of them were wicked, for different reasons & in spite of being for the best both times.

[alizarin_nyc]

It's good to know that people do this and survive, you know? It's just so hard to fathom.

I appreciate the moral support.

[alizarin_nyc]

I have not had the ability to read anything fannish! How's that for stressed? I am glad to have some Hal/Tom when I'm ready -- thank you dearest! You may always fling anything my way. *hugs you*

Also: Hal/Tom. There should be more in the world. I'm just saying.

[executrix]

I used to work for the City of NY in housing court, and basically, in housing court if the tenant can show *any* effort whatsoever, the judge will probably tell the landlord to get bent. And you can demonstrate that you made immense efforts that paid off. The more your lawyer can make the landlord look like a complete prick, the better your litigating position.

[alizarin_nyc]

Thanks guys. My lawyer doesn't want me to get too confident but it seemed pretty clear that it would either get thrown out quickly or be quashed through the usual means. If they do an inspection, which they'd have to, at some point if it gets that far, it won't be a problem. I mean, *I'd* want to live here, if it wasn't my home... by that I mean I feel that it isn't home anymore. So much has changed. :/

[executrix]

Also....pictures! Lots of pictures! With date stamps! (OK, maybe lose the ones that don't look so great.) So you can do a slideshow of how nifty and terrific the apartment looks and you're a model tenant.

[mirabile_dictu]

Oh my goodness, somehow I missed all of this -- I'm so sorry! What a lot is going on in your life right now. No wonder work is so hard. I wish I could say something insightful or helpful, but all I can do is keep you in my thoughts and wish you well, and hope that there's some resolution soon. *hugs you*

[alizarin_nyc]

I haven't posted a whole lot, just here and there, and then trying to be more fannish, which is hard right now, you know?

It's okay not to have insightful things to say - lord knows, I don't have any insights into LIFE WHY SO HARD but it is good to share, I feel, and it's nice to know y'all are out there, sharing and caring too.

[shaddyr]

OH GIRL, I so GET it about updates and time and too much and FAUGH!

Some day I'll have to make a list of some of the insane things men say when trying to get into one's pants, things that are just so profoundly awful and downright insulting. It's like they don't even WANT to get laid, and I don't feel at all bad about any of my behavior, nor sprinting from them to a taxi.

We should compile a list and publish it. Women the world over would laugh their collective asses off. And probably see red and shake with rage. Or all of the above simultaneously. How fun would that be?

All I can really say to the rest is, dude. I am so sorry that suckage abounds. *HUGS*

[alizarin_nyc]

I am consistently amazed by the things men say that they think are okay to say. Which, why am I surprised... but I guess I live in my own world, full of women, where such things are considered insane. Yes, there should be a list.

*hugs to you too!*