It's a weird holiday for me because my mother adored this day. Next to Christmas, it was her fav holiday but she didn't want anything for herself, she liked to cook for her family or do something for her female friends. And I know it's tough being a child in school when these holidays roll around. :/
It will change. You'll have a houseful of youngins one of these days. ;) All the boys will be dark and sexy like Foxy (oh lala!) and the girls will have your beautiful blue eyes, big boobs, and that Cameron Diaz smile. :) Lovely. I've got the frames all ready for pics. =D
Aww, thanks, sweetie. I may just have to adopt you and Carrie for real since the secondborn nearly electrocuted herself on the ancient pancake maker making me breakfast this morning (what? I only got it 8 years ago at a yard sale) - but crisis averted, and they bought me (us) a new one for Mother's Day!
*hugs* What do you mean IF? Aren't you already pregnant with some Fox cubs?! ;)
For me, it was always weird on Father's Day, because I grew up without one (my parents divorced when I was two and my Dad bailed on me shorly thereafter) and I had extremely negative feelings toward the whole concept of paternal figures. Then, in my early 20s my mom remarried, and two years ago, my father re-appeared out of nowhere. I went from no fathers to two. And I still hate the holiday.
So, yeah, I feel ya. (Which is not the same as copping a feel!)
I had three grandmas for a while. I can't imagine what it's like having that kind of paternal figure reemerge. My step brother has never seen his biological dad. Him and my dad are the best of friends (and scarily similar in that they're both 15 at heart and such... GUYS), but they never really had a father-son thing going on. His bio dad has children. It would KILL me not to know my half-siblings, I'd WANT to know at least them but he doesn't. I don't know. It's complicated.
Your step-brother's relationship with your dad sounds a lot like mine with my step-dad. My step-dad considers himself my father, but our relationship is more sister-brother than father-daughter because he's also 15 at heart, and I was already an adult when they got married, so the whole father ship had kind of sailed.
As for my bio father, he has no other kids -- thank god. Like you, it would kill me not to know my siblings -- but I know I'd also be dealing with resentment because my father abandoned me, so I'd question why he chose to be present in THEIR lives. But it worked out, since he never did have more kids (though he's remarried), and now he's really trying hard to make up for things (a first for him).
But, yeah, it's complicated. The whole dynamic of it is. Women who've grown up without a mother or father always have especially complex feelings.
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Hope you're doing well, love. ♥
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It's a weird holiday for me because my mother adored this day. Next to Christmas, it was her fav holiday but she didn't want anything for herself, she liked to cook for her family or do something for her female friends. And I know it's tough being a child in school when these holidays roll around. :/
It will change. You'll have a houseful of youngins one of these days. ;) All the boys will be dark and sexy like Foxy (oh lala!) and the girls will have your beautiful blue eyes, big boobs, and that Cameron Diaz smile. :) Lovely. I've got the frames all ready for pics. =D
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For me, it was always weird on Father's Day, because I grew up without one (my parents divorced when I was two and my Dad bailed on me shorly thereafter) and I had extremely negative feelings toward the whole concept of paternal figures. Then, in my early 20s my mom remarried, and two years ago, my father re-appeared out of nowhere. I went from no fathers to two. And I still hate the holiday.
So, yeah, I feel ya. (Which is not the same as copping a feel!)
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I had three grandmas for a while. I can't imagine what it's like having that kind of paternal figure reemerge. My step brother has never seen his biological dad. Him and my dad are the best of friends (and scarily similar in that they're both 15 at heart and such... GUYS), but they never really had a father-son thing going on. His bio dad has children. It would KILL me not to know my half-siblings, I'd WANT to know at least them but he doesn't. I don't know. It's complicated.
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Your step-brother's relationship with your dad sounds a lot like mine with my step-dad. My step-dad considers himself my father, but our relationship is more sister-brother than father-daughter because he's also 15 at heart, and I was already an adult when they got married, so the whole father ship had kind of sailed.
As for my bio father, he has no other kids -- thank god. Like you, it would kill me not to know my siblings -- but I know I'd also be dealing with resentment because my father abandoned me, so I'd question why he chose to be present in THEIR lives. But it worked out, since he never did have more kids (though he's remarried), and now he's really trying hard to make up for things (a first for him).
But, yeah, it's complicated. The whole dynamic of it is. Women who've grown up without a mother or father always have especially complex feelings.
*hugs and cops another feel*
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