Companionable Silence

[aneeta_04]

My friend JKL switched to a dual sim phone to add another sim which would be cheaper to make calls to his interest. And since this dual sim phone doesnt allow parallel calls coming in, his phone is out of reach when he is in call with his interest. So he would never know the calls he is actually missing from the other sim when he is talking to his

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[deponti]

"when a man says No, its a NO, but a woman saying No, it means different things" !

Wow, this guy really understands women!!

Enjoyed this post VERY much!

[aneeta_04]

Thank You Deponti. My friend read the comments below and felt only you could understand him so far, so he is looking for sympathy from you heh :)

[prashanthchengi]

Wow... this post is just simply amazing, because it's the first one that I'm coming across that is honest and is a girl's perspective on a guy's feeling! I can write reams on how I totally identify with that guy.. I've been in so many such situations which needless to say went southwards..but I've always believed that it was I who was at fault completely. Your post seems to indicate that such behavior (women wanting a guy's company and time but not necessarily him) is not exactly normal behavior for women (at least you seem to think otherwise and that gives a lot of hope!) but something that should send warning bells ringing

[aneeta_04]

There are different kinds of people on this planet. Some just like the fact there are people around to always love them even though they dont care to return it back. It is very difficult to assume/imagine what the reasons could be. I believe, the best is if people can be honest to each other irrespective of whether it is a yes/no. I have been honest in my relationships, even if it meant, by telling the truth I would lose a person forever.

[anonymous]

Interesting, though I disagree with your friend's analysis. I think men came up with the expressions such 'when a girl says no, it means yes(or different things)', to excuse their persistent nature or denial towards "No".

Something like that Tamil expression "Silence means acceptance(yes)"("Mounam Sammatham"). How?!!! From literature to films, it's usually the guys idea of how females are, or should be...rarely a females perception. Females have forever designed their actions and thoughts around the "supposed ideas" about them prevalent in society, ideas spread by men.

Now if that doesn't sound like a feminist...:-) Oh, btw, I enjoyed your post on Mihika's brother. That was a nice surprise. He is adorable.

- kajan

[aneeta_04]

Yes, its very difficult to stereotype people and their actions based on legacy :)
I feel people should be honest about themselves and their feelings when it comes to relationships, rather than with one leg in the water and the other in the shore.

[inspirethoughts]

Interestingly you have put the guy's mind here. Enjoyed the post.

I think you shud be there when your friend falls off the hill and does not find a love nest below waiting for him. It will hurt. It would hurt for anyone in his position. I am sure he will see soon that the girl is not interested.

Very good friend you are, Aneeta!

[aneeta_04]

Thanks A.. I am hoping it will be a happy ending if it turns out I was wrong in guessing :)

[meghainclouds]

"Right now, its like she wants his time and company, not him though..."

I kinda know what you mean. And I think people catch on to only after a while...Girls are more perceptive about these things, but I know there is a lot of scope of hurt either ways..