Irreversible loss

[aneeta_04]

There is nothing as irreversible as death of a closed one. Till now, I have always thought of heart breaks as the worst pain, but I just realized death is a separation in which there is no room for future. My team-mate B came in to work today after a 2 week break after her dad's sudden demise

Comments

[deponti]

A thoughtful post. life does mean such irrevocable partings...but we have to learn to take it in our stride and move forward...that is our ultimate victory over death. And those who are near to us ,live on in our hearts. That is their ultimate immortality.

[aneeta_04]

So true. Moving forward is the only way out here.

[prashanthchengi]

Very touching. Yes, I suppose one's life turns completely over the head with such losses. Never ceases to amaze me how a few people just seem to take it all in their stride. One of my best friends' dad passed away on the first day of his fifth semester engineering exams and yet, this guy managed to not only attend all but the first of his papers but also clear them all. He went on to get a distinction. I know that he was as devastated as one could get, but the grace and poise with which he seemed to accept the reality and move on was something really amazing and inspiring. Just a week earlier, I got a call from my 'the bestest' friend, and yes, it was to inform me that his father had passed away. I can think of the hours upon hours that we have spent, virtually growing up together right through school..going through the shitty parts and the nice parts, always knowing when to say what and how and when to just shut up and lend a ear... but this was a situation when I really did not know what to say or do.. I could not make it to

[aneeta_04]

Your friend must be a real strong person :) I hope you get more time together to relive old memories :)

[prashanthchengi]

Yup. Strong indeed.. probably it was as deponti described in her comment.. I suppose he became stronger because the situation demanded it.

[deponti]

We all grow up each time we face death..and how we deal with it is different for each person

[upstatenyer]

I lost my dad to cancer and we had a lot of time to prepare for the "end" but then you really cannot be totally prepared I guess. My drew strength from a lot of sources. My mom did not want to face anyone and pretty much kept to herself, not many people understood that but who the hell cares - it was her way of coming to terms with life. My younger sister sat under a table for three hours before anyone noticed, but those three hours she said were when she found strength to look at my dad's body and not break down. My youngest sister was away from home and come home the next day - she leaned on my younger sister for support. And me - I was too busy getting things done to grieve at that point. I left to the US a month later and it was then when i really realized what hit me. My strength came from My husband who had also lost his dad over 8 years ago. He does not say much but whenever i had to cry he just was there

[aneeta_04]

Thank you P, this was very useful, bcos I am very confused, what the person in grief is actually going through. My teamie B, sits just next to me, but she is lost and doesnt want to talk anything, I have left her to her own world these 2 days, but I was not sure, if that was the right thing to do. I did talk to her very few things generally, but I think I sensed she wanted some quiet time, so I preferred not to disturb her much.

[premkudva]

You might lose them, but you will never forget the sound of their voices ringing in your ears. Even today I can remember the voices of friends and relations who have passed away as if they just spoke to me.

[aneeta_04]

Hi Prem, Thanks for commenting here, I couldnt reply back earlier, as I was on and off from LJ. I have been a visitor at your blog as well. Love your family and the lil girls.

[premkudva]

Aneeta, I too am LJing less these days than before, ie after migrating over to FB.

[luckydove]

hi ,
just came across ur journal.i know its too hurtful but tn terz nothing v can do abt it but just pray.me too smetimes i think wat wud i do wthout my parents:(

[aneeta_04]

Thanks Resh. Your active comments on my LJ has helped me to bring it back alive.