Excuse me sir, I think you have run over my ettiqute with your gigantic asshat.

[angelo]

There are a number of people who have been very disloyal to my family over this last year, people playing the role of caring friend to I, or Suze, who are neither caring nor friend. I have kept lips pursed often instead of discussing the problems that these actions and words have caused my family

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[lucyruthe]

Beautifully said.

I especially appreciated your reflection over time.

I have often felt that the correct time to speak is after your emotion has subsided in some way and you can assess the situation clearly.

One of the reasons Suz and I have always been friends is that we understand the raw, intense emotional understanding of things. We've had many disagreements and arguments over the years we've known each other and worked together, but there has always been love there.

Over time, you can tell when someone cares about you or is simply destructive. You can't share the important things with destructive people.

But in the midst of intense emotion, the right thing to do often becomes blurry. I think it is only when we come to peace with ourselves and our past that we find any clear direction. Once we have come to terms with our true emotions, it becomes easier to understand the actions of those around us.

Thank you for sharing these thoughts. Much love to you and yours.

[thorintatge]

You're right about those who are close, who share values (that which is holy) having the most potential to cause offense. Is disloyalty the easiest way to do that? Maybe. It seems believable.

For the record, though, I don't remember ever having been flipped off. Maybe as a kid. I tend not to get into confrontations much and as such, when someone does say or do something cruel to me, it does matter to me. Even random jerks on the internet. And if someone did flip me the bird, it would bother me for a while. All of which I guess goes to show your observation here is relative.

By the way, it was fun playing Werewolf with you last night, and I hope you're able to weather whatever disloyalty comes your way with your usual dignity.