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apostate_96

Informing, The Last

Apr 17, 2011 14:40

I got ahold of Ariel's ex today. I'd had a pretty good idea of who he was and how to get ahold of him, but for various reasons had been putting it off. This morning, I finally sent out an e-mail to his work, wanting to know if he's the guy I thought and asking him to respond. Much to my surprise, I had a response back within a few hours. I ( Read more... )

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There are always... gythiawulfie April 18 2011, 12:40:17 UTC

2 sides to every story. We tend only ever hear one. Whether it be a tale someone is telling about something that happened, or a story about a relationship etc.

We also view things differently. Obviously he viewed their ending marriage one way, and she another. How we perceieve things tends to color how we view things and our perceptions.

It sounds like she backed herself into a room with no way out, and that is very sad. And you are probably right with a good number of statements you made above.

I am glad you got the courage to tell him. He deserved to know. I am glad he was at least pseudo amicable about the whole thing. He didn't have to be. However, it was odd how he kind of knew where you were going.

Re: There are always... apostate_96 April 20 2011, 05:14:55 UTC

I'm glad I let him know, too. Partly because of his response, but mostly 'cause it just seemed like the right thing to do. If nothing else, it's a decision I can live with, and could have regardless of his response. As for the difference of perspective, it's hard to know how much of it was individual and how much the effect that passing time can have on our memories.

And, yeah, it was a bit odd he knew where I was going. Kinda makes me wonder what she was like when she was with him, and if there'd been some of the same things coming up even back then. It wouldn't surprise me any to find out that's the case.

jadziaesq April 18 2011, 20:47:34 UTC

It was very good of you to do that. You have done a lot of that. That shows the good person that I have always know you to be.

Also, it seemed to give you insight on how she seemed to see things. And I think that did effect the way she viewed making friends and how she kept herself at a distance, probably even with those friends she considered her good friends. I have already told you what I observed when I met her. But, it make more sense to me now.

i am glad that her ex was amicable about it, but I do not think it was odd that he sort of knew why you were contacting him. He also had a life with her, and I am sure that he probably dealt with the same issue with her that you dealt with. Whether she ever was at a point to do what she did when she was married to him, might be a reason they ended up getting a divorce.

You are a good man. :-)

apostate_96 April 20 2011, 05:12:37 UTC

Thanks, Z. I'm glad it worked out that well, too. I'm not sure why he suspected the reason for the call, but what you said makes sense. If she'd been dealing with the same stuff before, it wouldn't come as much of a surprise to him. I don't know if that was part of why they divorced, but it could well be.

Again, thank you. :)