In the immortal words of a religion I don't follow.... gythiawulfieMay 19 2011, 12:58:31 UTC
AMEN.
My daughter had a dear friend in 10th grade, whom she loved dearly. The girl had a horrible family life. One day she disappeared, and a few days later was discovered having comitted suicide.
What that did to my daughter (who has issues of her own) was indescribable, as this girls actions and being her best friend not only caused her grief, but put her in the spotlight, and the calls I got over and over from the school by officials telling me, She's next... yadda yadda yadda... was immeasurable. (It eventually led me to having to homeschool her, because they put in her school record she was suicidal... no.... she was pissed off and you wouldn't leave her alone... mkay? thx... goodbye).
I have often said that suicide is one of the most selfish things a person could do. One that can never be taken back. You are spot on in this missive.
And now, like I am processing other stuff, I will remind you to do what others are reminding me to do...
Re: In the immortal words of a religion I don't follow.... apostate_96May 20 2011, 18:45:43 UTC
Yeah, it really does suck for those left behind. It is insanely selfish. And the impact of it ripples on for way, WAY longer than most people would think.
I hope your daughter's doing OK these days.
Working on the breathing part. It's the basic I keep coming back to when things feel too surreal or overwhelming. Just gotta take the next breath....
Re: In the immortal words of a religion I don't follow.... gythiawulfieMay 20 2011, 20:47:26 UTC
My daughter is doing fantastic, and is working with her Therapist on coming to terms with her thoughts. In school, succeeding, vibrant, has dated the same guy for 2 years. And Happy! (Which is a relief.)
She is on medication for ADD and and aditional mood stabilizer, and probably will be for the rest of her life, but even she said, "If that's what it takes, that's what it takes."
The point of someone who's suicidal being that inwardly-focused was part of what drove that post. If they won't think of it themselves, at least someone else can put it out there for them to see. I don't know that it'd make a difference, but at least it's there.
I do get that kind of selfishness, driven from agony and despair. And, at the same time, I agree that it does not excuse it. Not at all.
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My daughter had a dear friend in 10th grade, whom she loved dearly. The girl had a horrible family life. One day she disappeared, and a few days later was discovered having comitted suicide.
What that did to my daughter (who has issues of her own) was indescribable, as this girls actions and being her best friend not only caused her grief, but put her in the spotlight, and the calls I got over and over from the school by officials telling me, She's next... yadda yadda yadda... was immeasurable. (It eventually led me to having to homeschool her, because they put in her school record she was suicidal... no.... she was pissed off and you wouldn't leave her alone... mkay? thx... goodbye).
I have often said that suicide is one of the most selfish things a person could do. One that can never be taken back.
You are spot on in this missive.
And now, like I am processing other stuff, I will remind you to do what others are reminding me to do...
*Breathe deep, exhale.* (repeat utill temprarily decompressed)
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I hope your daughter's doing OK these days.
Working on the breathing part. It's the basic I keep coming back to when things feel too surreal or overwhelming. Just gotta take the next breath....
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She is on medication for ADD and and aditional mood stabilizer, and probably will be for the rest of her life, but even she said, "If that's what it takes, that's what it takes."
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I do get that kind of selfishness, driven from agony and despair. And, at the same time, I agree that it does not excuse it. Not at all.
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