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[art_school_grrl]

I'm still thinking about the movie Garden State. How much the themes echo those of my own life right now.... I even found myself wishing (after dealing with my mom's passive agressive, melodramatic b.s. when I went to see my dying dad this weekend) that I had a supercool vintage wwII era motorcycle with a sidecar to speed off on at 82 mph to the

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just trying to be sensitive

[art_school_grrl]

Just trying to be sensitive to the fact that what you're doing takes an incredible amount of strength and maturity, and I don't want to undermine that in any way. Even if what I write is not meant to undermine you or your choices / lifestyle / whatever, it seems that if the end result is that Sarah's panties get all in a bunch, it makes for more drama for YOU. So, even though I had the best of intentions with regard to the last thing I wrote (which had nothing to do with the triad - and a lot more to do with me trying to figure out what I want), if you're trying to keep things as stable as possible in your household, the best thing I can do is back off and get my ass on out of the picture. Cause I don't like what I see/hear/read anymore

Re: just trying to be sensitive

[ajfish]

I want to point out that you are wrong. All wrong. You wrote, "Sarah's panties get all in a bunch" This is Sarah we're talking about. . .

Joking aside though, I agree with you wholeheartedly when you say "I feel like (as far as Sarah is concerned) there is no room for questioning, evaluation, or intelligent dialogue when it comes to relationship structures / poly. I just can't deal with her. I get pissed that she can be like that. There it is. I am annoyed by her irrelevant poly dogma, her fucking double-speak, and her inability to see her own fucking co-dependancy and how it's fucked everything up" I think one of the worst parts is the irrelevant responses that are given any time somebody questions what goes on. That and her trying to make it all about her. It's like someone says "Hey, I need for you to stop doing that" or whatever and SP's response is "But you're my friend, so you should make me a sandwich" etc.

Though I think it may go beyond co-dependency.

Re: just trying to be sensitive

[art_school_grrl]

You make a very good point there andy. It may well go beyond run-of-the-mill co-dependency. I've never quite seen anything like her.

Your point about the irrelevant nature of her responses was an excellent and articulate obsevation. I know, at least for me, one of the hardest things was articulating the things I didn't like about the way she treated me - it was all so hard to make sense of. You've provided some clarity for me.