Odd question

[fayanora]

First off, I'm demisexual. So I have some experience in the ace community. Just not the experience I need to answer a question that came up yesterday. Which I will get to in a moment

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[lilredlfc]

I'm ace and I personally have never enjoyed masturbation. It's not that I have any issue with it I just find masturbation boring and to be a waste of my time. I don't know if it is the same for other ace people though.

[anonymous]

Hrm. I'd consider myself on the ace side of grey-a and masturbate every once in a while. (Silly pre-period hormone fluctuations...) Lyria's answer is actually pretty much how I feel about it. Sort of a, "Yep, that's a thing that happened with my body. Time to get back to what I was actually doing."

Personally, I suspect that there are as many answers to this as there are aces (and possibly more -- I know I don't feel the same way about it all the time!). So, if it's in character for her, I say go with it. But perhaps aces less grey than I will feel differently!

[fayanora]

Yeah, Lyria's pretty much a hard-line ace. I have a flashback scene planned where she's talking with her mother and is pretty much like "Sex? Meh. Sounds messy and boring. I'd much rather read."

[lilredlfc]

Sorry for butting in but that was pretty much mine and my mom's talk about sex. I was just so under impressed and actually thought that it sounded gross and far to risky for something with, what I think to be, such a low payoff. Again sorry for butting in. /o\

[fayanora]

No problem. :-)

[fayanora]

Neat.

[fayanora]

Sorry, it's one of the things I default to saying when I feel I should say something but can't think of anything to say. :-|

[anonymous]

I used to masturbate, and it was okay, but there are better things to spend my time on so I don't anymore. Lack of interest I suppose, or I just never have felt a true urge/need to do it, I just did out of boredom and it was relaxing. There are probably as many answers to this as aces though, it's a complicated subject.

[ladypoetess]

I was around 18 the first time masturbation 'did anything for me' so to speak - I'd always been really unimpressed with the results of the activity before that. Possibly the fact that I was handed a vibrator is what changed things. I'm solidly ace, not really gray at all, and am married to an ace man. I do occasionally masturbate, generally just before my cycle starts, and that more often in the Spring than any other time of year. My husband and I do want children, despite both of us being ace, so we schedule 'baby-making sex' at appropriate times - masturbation is a key feature in this process, for both of us, since the actual act of intercourse does little to interest either of us. For my husband, he rarely masturbates unless it is part of the BMS process.