Odd question

[fayanora]

First off, I'm demisexual. So I have some experience in the ace community. Just not the experience I need to answer a question that came up yesterday. Which I will get to in a moment

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[fayanora]

See, this is exactly what I mean. I have enough knowledge about the spectrum to know I'm on it as a demi, but also enough ignorance to make myself appear foolish. :-|

[fayanora]

You know, somebody who asks an honest question to become more informed on a certain topic never appears foolish.

Thanks!

[odannygirl7]

It's really going to be different for every ace. (and grey and demi ...and even for people of other sexual orientations

[run_atreyu]

I really identify with this comment, just wanted to say. It's basically exactly me, except that I'm not having regular sex (mainly because of the problems you note about the way a lack of attraction is perceived by potential partners).

[nightengalesknd]

Some do, some don't

[yamx]

I'm ace (absolutely, nothing gray about it) and I do, but only at certain times in my cycle, and sometimes not even then. When I do, it's always a purely physical thing, I don't fantasize or anything.

From reading the AVEN boards, I'd say you get he full spectrum--anything from enthusiastic yes, to disgust at the mere idea. So pick whatever answer is best for your character--it'll be accurate for some aces and not others.

[anonymous]

I identify as asexual, have never had sex, do have kinks I might indulge in with the right person but do not ever see myself having penetrative sex. But I masturbate frequently. There's a difference between not wanting to have sex and feeling around/enjoying orgasm.