First off, I'm demisexual. So I have some experience in the ace community. Just not the experience I need to answer a question that came up yesterday. Which I will get to in a moment
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I'm ace, am revolted by sex, but find masturbation very enjoyable. I do fantasize, but tend to pretend to be someone else during it, does that make sense? I find sex hot in the theoretical sense (I actually write erotic fanfic), but the idea of doing it myself is really horrible. My fantasies tend to be waaaay on the kinky scale so I doubt many people would want that to be done to them anyway...
I'm a sex-repulsed aromantic asexual; while the thought of intimate physical contact with another person makes me want to throw up, I do find masturbation to be a pleasant sort of thing I can do once in a while (usually just before my period starts - stupid hormones...). It's purely about the physical sensations, though - I don't think about anything in particular during it, and while it usually leaves me feeling relaxed and sleepy afterwards sometimes I'll just feel really miserable and guilty. Am still trying to figure out why this is.
Yeah, I do it frequently, and find it relaxing and enjoyable.
Another possible suggestion is that if your character does do it, then it could cause her to speculate about her sexuality a bit - like, if she enjoys sexual feelings, and has a romantic attraction, does that mean maybe she hasn't found the right guy/girl/whoever yet? I mean, it's not necessarily true, and some romantic aces are completely secure with their identities no matter what they do or don't do on their own, but it's definitely a thing that can be a source of doubt for some people, or for others could be anything between an identity crisis level question to merely a philosophical exercise.
Yes, but I started VERY late--like, when I was 20, I think. Used to masturbate just about every night, but medication side effects, plus the fact that I've never been able to have orgasms that I would term much better than "meh" (and even those generally take forever) mean I've all but lost interest.
Basically, at this point, masturbation is something to do when I need to make myself tired, or warm up enough so I CAN sleep, or I have the random urge to see if I can "get anywhere". On the other hand, it would help if I caved in and got a better vibrator... especially since even "meh" orgasms feel very nice and it sucks when I can't manage one!
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Another possible suggestion is that if your character does do it, then it could cause her to speculate about her sexuality a bit - like, if she enjoys sexual feelings, and has a romantic attraction, does that mean maybe she hasn't found the right guy/girl/whoever yet? I mean, it's not necessarily true, and some romantic aces are completely secure with their identities no matter what they do or don't do on their own, but it's definitely a thing that can be a source of doubt for some people, or for others could be anything between an identity crisis level question to merely a philosophical exercise.
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Basically, at this point, masturbation is something to do when I need to make myself tired, or warm up enough so I CAN sleep, or I have the random urge to see if I can "get anywhere". On the other hand, it would help if I caved in and got a better vibrator... especially since even "meh" orgasms feel very nice and it sucks when I can't manage one!
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