Maybe bringing up an exhausting - and exhausted - topic, but: No chance of getting a full-time job made into a part-time job for you? They are _supposed_ to be making it easier for women with kids (or generally committed parents) to rise up the career ladders, aren't they?
*snuggles tight* I miss you! It's so good to hear from you.
On the having-another-child thing - don't feel under undue pressure to give Robin a sibling. I'm an only child, and very happy to be so. I have lovely cousins who more than make up for any lack in siblings, and I also got my parents all to myself which I'm selfish enough to love :-)
Oh, I miss you too! I still dream of another Thedas UK, I really do. I've rarely had so much fun as I did that weekend. It was just amazing. Or you guys should just come visit us in Edinburgh!!!!!
As for a Pronoun 2 project... I see parents with three under 5. It looks exhausting, but I suspect there is a certain economy of scale. One really good thing is that they entertain each other quite early on. A single child by about 2 needs not just constant supervision but constant entertainment and input. Two kids, with even the youngest under 2 can get along fine with next-door adult supervision. At least that's what I've seen happen. It looked amazing!
Actually it was pretty clear to me which option I wanted; what was hard was convincing myself that I was allowed to want it, especially since it was the opposite of what I'd thought of wanted for years. Oh brains, you are messed up things.
The entertaining each other aspect hadn't occurred to me; I'll keep it in mind, thanks!
Well, I'm certainly looking forward to your visit in December, even though I feel bad for you about the whole jet-lag thing. I can't wait to meet Robin!
On a more serious note, your comments about debating Pronoun 2 are a huge relief. Between your generic reluctance to discuss Robin's birth and the few tidbits that did get posted (high-risk, excessive bleeding, major interventions, etc.), I've been assuming this whole time that, well, things were not left in a configuration that would allow for a sibling. (There, was that diplomatic enough?) So yea for you being in better shape than I feared!
Also, I'm glad to hear the finances are not as on-edge as they once were, and you have the freedom to stay part-time.
I'm actually not reluctant to be pregnant/give birth again (and yep, am entirely physically capable of it, whoohoo), it's the first few months of being a parent that are daunting. =) And my reluctance to talk about the birth is less reluctance and more that "So I nearly bled to death!" isn't really the sort of thing you blurt out at parties. I'm not upset about that (actually I wasn't upset about it at the time, just sort of "Huh"; it was the hospital stay that upset me). But there wasn't time/energy to talk about it during the first few months, and it seemed odd to bring it up out of nowhere after that.
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Hugs and hugs.
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On the having-another-child thing - don't feel under undue pressure to give Robin a sibling. I'm an only child, and very happy to be so. I have lovely cousins who more than make up for any lack in siblings, and I also got my parents all to myself which I'm selfish enough to love :-)
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That's a good point, thanks! =)
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As for a Pronoun 2 project... I see parents with three under 5. It looks exhausting, but I suspect there is a certain economy of scale. One really good thing is that they entertain each other quite early on. A single child by about 2 needs not just constant supervision but constant entertainment and input. Two kids, with even the youngest under 2 can get along fine with next-door adult supervision. At least that's what I've seen happen. It looked amazing!
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The entertaining each other aspect hadn't occurred to me; I'll keep it in mind, thanks!
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On a more serious note, your comments about debating Pronoun 2 are a huge relief. Between your generic reluctance to discuss Robin's birth and the few tidbits that did get posted (high-risk, excessive bleeding, major interventions, etc.), I've been assuming this whole time that, well, things were not left in a configuration that would allow for a sibling. (There, was that diplomatic enough?) So yea for you being in better shape than I feared!
Also, I'm glad to hear the finances are not as on-edge as they once were, and you have the freedom to stay part-time.
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I'm actually not reluctant to be pregnant/give birth again (and yep, am entirely physically capable of it, whoohoo), it's the first few months of being a parent that are daunting. =) And my reluctance to talk about the birth is less reluctance and more that "So I nearly bled to death!" isn't really the sort of thing you blurt out at parties. I'm not upset about that (actually I wasn't upset about it at the time, just sort of "Huh"; it was the hospital stay that upset me). But there wasn't time/energy to talk about it during the first few months, and it seemed odd to bring it up out of nowhere after that.
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