Thoughts on a snowy evening

[autumnhawk]

"What will I do without you when you die

Comments

[erikaerin]

I love this post. :)

Zach is always asking us the hard questions. They get more and more frequent as he gets older and more curious.

[autumnhawk]

Thanks. It was a nice moment of lucid thinking, rare these days ;-)

[polkydot]

this is a good post, you should write more. with all that free time you're talking about here, I mean :D

[autumnhawk]

I should, one of my New year's resolutions i suppose ;-)

[cemeteryconsort]

Happy New Year.
My son was melancholy last night too. Going over certain stuffed animals and where he got them. He has yet to put behind him his childish things. Not sure he ever will.
Having just lost a parent this year, and my MIL having just lost her father this year and her mother last year, well, it isn't easy, but you get through it one way or another. Hopefully they will be prepared enough to get along in the world without you.
Now I'm tearing up, so off I go. Good to see you here.

[autumnhawk]

I often think about how simple things like teaching your kids to go to sleep without you are small steps in the long journey of teaching them to be able to say goodbye to you. So I guess it's appropriate that he often has these discussions when tucked into bed.

Happy new year to you too.

[loreeley]

I remember, as a 4-5 year old, being terrified of death. I'd lay in bed just crying and being scared to never wake up if I went to sleep. And knowing that one day, I'd go to sleep and not wake up.

Even now I still have those thoughts, this gripping feeling of fear, some nights.

[lagizma]

My dad always told me that it was his job to train me to be more and more independent every day. I think he'd have answered that question by saying that it was his job to make me NOT need him at all and only come back and visit him because I like him.

[autumnhawk]

Yeah, it's a long process of bigger and more significant goodbyes. We never know how long we'll be here for them, so it makes sense to make sure they like you but don't need you, eventually.