Comments | average_homos: Gaydar refinement?

m_lo_ol_m in average_homos

Gaydar refinement?

Aug 06, 2009 17:33

Any advice on getting my gaydar working better? I guess I'm being half joking, half serious here.I mean, I'm sure such a thing barely exists if at all, but since trying to exercise it lately, I've yet to run into an opportunity for positive feedback. I there any other way to make sure my gaydar is working correctly ( Read more... )

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artkouros August 7 2009, 11:11:46 UTC

I'm still waiting for the first GPS enabled gaydar iPhone app.

Metro Sexuals Screw up GayDaR jbm33 August 7 2009, 12:46:46 UTC

It sucks when you are in to this what you think is cool and way hot gay guy and "THE DAR" is pinging and he is metro, DAMN!!! Or the European the fine looking well cultured guy that you are gaga over and he is just European, UGH! I guess the guys are put up like radar chaff to scramble our gaydar till we meet the right guy. The best thing is be you and trust the gut because nine times out of ten if the gut says run then run.

Re: Metro Sexuals Screw up GayDaR m_lo_ol_m August 7 2009, 17:15:03 UTC

Thanks, I like this; I guess I don't trust my gut enough of the time. And if the guy mentioned in #1 isn't gay (or-- horrors!-- is gay and rejects me) then at least I can chalk it up to a learning experience, the skills of which can be used on some other prospect.

kabo11 August 7 2009, 14:21:33 UTC

I find gaydar impossible. Every single pretty, slightly fey looking younger man tends to set my gaydar off which is a huge problem because a)not going to get them anyhow and b)that is a horridly inaccurate way to tell. At least they're good to look at.

m_lo_ol_m August 7 2009, 17:18:06 UTC

Yea, this is sort of where I am. It's just that I'm usually pretty good at "reading" people, and I'm sort of curious if this gaydar is part of that, something separate, or if I'm just really not that good at "reading" people as I think I am.

Positive approch slave4thevibe August 11 2009, 08:33:47 UTC

Just ask questions(?) Be honest about yourself and don't judge others. Take things politely when asking about interests, goals, and places, etc. I think the best ways are intros. where questions are short but curious.

Re: Positive approch m_lo_ol_m August 11 2009, 16:21:25 UTC

Y'know, this is simple advice, and probably the best, but it's hard for me to approach people in the first place. I know, I know, I'm just going to have to bear it if I want anything to happen at all.

Especially with #1, I'm finding that this particular guy speaks less English than I thought, which makes some simple conversation difficult. He's a bit more fobby that I thought, which makes me feel that he's a bit less gay than I was suspecting.